boyfriends mom doesnt know were together

[confuzzled12]

hii. my boyfriend and i hav been dating for almost two months now and i recently discovered that his mom thinks were just "talking".

shud i be worried that he hasnt told his mom that we're actually together? or is this normal? i think im just kinda worried that there was some bad reason about me why he wudnt tell her

[vashti]

Sometimes males keep their romantic life to themselves lest their mothers start planning for grandchildren.

[Pears]

Two months is kind of early. There shouldn't be any expectation to have parents know.

[GrkScorp]

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Originally Posted by confuzzled12

shud i be worried that he hasnt told his mom that we're actually together? or is this normal? i think im just kinda worried that there was some bad reason about me why he wudnt tell her

My own personal input as a guy;

Some mothers take their role as a mother a little too seriously.., they really will leach on to their child and try and get involved in every single aspect of their life.., then she will assert this information around to everyone (him.., family.., friends).., to feel like she knows and has this influence over his life "this is what she feels she must do in order to feel like a mother".., and by asserting that she "knows" this information about his life.., she now feels that she's entitled to walk around giving him advice about things and snoop around to know about everything..

Some examples:

- "Oh! I didn't tell you.., Jimmy is going out with this girl"
- "Jimmy.., tell everyone about your new girlfriend"
- "Jimmy.., are you alright? Did you & your girlfriend have a fight?"
- "You look upset.., did you break up with that Amanda girl?"
- "How are things going with that Amanda girl?"
- "Are the two of you having sex yet?"
- "Are you using protection? I hope you are.., you never know!"
- "You should tell Amanda to come this weekend!"
- "I don't think she's you're type.., you need someone less.., quiet"
- "I can tell that you're not exactly the first guy she's dated"
- "What job does she do?"
- "What is she majoring in?"
- "Does she know what she wants to do with her life yet?"
- "Did she get tested before you had sex?"
- "How are her parents like?"
- "What does her mother do?"
- "What does her father do?"

You can see how annoying this can get.., there are just some things you don't want your parents talking about.., your "girlfriend" is one of those things.., some parents understand that on their own.., some parents DON'T.., they will put their kid through an endless interview and qualification process for every girl he thinks about dating.., along with constant status updates and weekly/monthy reports.., so the kid has to take matters into their own hands and just find it's own way of preventing this situation.., and that way is.., by not letting them know about his/her dating life..

I wouldn't be worried about it.., at all.., not the slightest bit.., it's perfectly normal..

Best,

GrkScorp

[Austinn]

yea, my parents are not told about my relationships, gf's until I deem it okay, which is wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy after it has occured...

[Gigabitch]

Count your blessings. It's annoying to have your boyfriend's mom all up in your business.

[Pears]

Giga is right. Sometimes I wish I hadn't told my parents about my relationship.