Bad Deja Vu - Love Forum

SONOIL · #1 (**permalink**) 07-06-07, 02:21 PM

Here we go again. I was dating this girl previously for four years, and we were engaged before. We broke up for like 11 months and two months ago we got back together. Last time we broke up she said she cheated on me so thet's how it ended. Now two months ago my grandma passed away and she came to the funeral with her family.

Her sister-in-law pulled me aside and started telling me that the story with cheating wasn't true and that she made that up for me to break up with her... And that she realized few things after time... Later that evening she came up to me herself and apologized to me for whtever happened and said that indeed she never cheated on me and now she's changed. So we took off pretty normally again. We went out and did lot's of things together and then she said that she's really serious about us and the relationship again and want to get married. So I thought to myself, "ok" sounds like she has really changed, so I reproposed to her and we set up date for our wedding again on November of this year.

About a week passed after we got engaged and she started the old song again! Just like in the last time she start saying that I need to change, that she felt bad about us having sex again and that I should stop go have couple of drinks with my boddys (even thou I don't do it that often now!). So anyways, last Thursday she had miscarriage (This was true and i saw papers from doctor).... She blaimed me for everything and then herself and said that nothing good happens to her when she's around me, no matter how hard i tried to explained things to her she would start saying again that I'm just trying to make her look bad, and that I'm always right and she's wrong and that I need to change. So i'm so tiered of this bullshit and just came to a thought.... Why do I love her? She betrayed me so many times now and i'm still feeling something toward her. I don't know people... I had serious conversaton with her last night and asked her straught out if she loves me or not, just like the last time she said "NO" so I said it was over because it just can't continue forever! I'm so lost, it just feels like bad bad deja vu!

Steve2004 · #2 (**permalink**) 07-06-07, 02:32 PM

well this seems pretty simple.

she said she doesn't love you.

Tiay · #3 (**permalink**) 07-06-07, 10:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Steve2004

well this seems pretty simple.

she said she doesn't love you.

have you noticed it's always the long posts that get short replies, and the short ones that get long ones?

anyway, yeah, you probably shouldn't have gotten back with her. but anybody could make that mistake.

#4 (**permalink**) 07-06-07, 11:39 PM

stay away from her. she is bad news.

DoesntMatter · #5 (**permalink**) 08-06-07, 03:31 AM

Your girlfriend might be bipolar.

SONOIL · #6 (**permalink**) 08-06-07, 03:42 AM

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Originally Posted by DoesntMatter

Your girlfriend might be bipolar.

You know, you not the first one telling me that, and as a matter a fact i have mentioned it to her and suggested to see couselor or specialist, but she just laughed at me...

Steve2004 · #7 (**permalink**) 08-06-07, 03:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Lionos

but she just laughed at me...

denial. she's bipolar. that's bad news, because even when bipolar people get on medication..they're still terrible to be around. but if she doesn't want to own up to the fact that something's wrong with her...**** that. I wouldn't put up with her

Gigabitch · #8 (**permalink**) 08-06-07, 05:08 AM

Oh, my God, Lio. I can't believe you did that. Clearly, you need some kind of an intervention. OV, you live in Chicago. Please hit Lio in the back of the head with a shovel the next time he goes anywhere near this girl. Ultimately, it will hurt less.

You need a freaking shock collar, dude. I thought you, for sure, had learned your lesson last time, but you apparently didn't. Have you learned it now?

SONOIL · #9 (**permalink**) 08-06-07, 06:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

Oh, my God, Lio. I can't believe you did that. Clearly, you need some kind of an intervention. OV, you live in Chicago. Please hit Lio in the back of the head with a shovel the next time he goes anywhere near this girl. Ultimately, it will hurt less.

You need a freaking shock collar, dude. I thought you, for sure, had learned your lesson last time, but you apparently didn't. Have you learned it now?

I believe I have, but thanks, nice seeing you too!

... She's a mess.... But would you tell me why she does that??

Gigabitch · #10 (**permalink**) 08-06-07, 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Lionos

I believe I have, but thanks, nice seeing you too!

... She's a mess.... But would you tell me why she does that??

I believe I've already explained that she is the Devil.

SONOIL · #11 (**permalink**) 08-06-07, 07:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

I believe I've already explained that she is the Devil.

Devil in disguise, you right, but I don't feel hurt this time, sad a little bit may be, but not hurt... I wasn't certain before, but now I am... Thank you!

Ath · #12 (**permalink**) 08-06-07, 02:50 PM

She can't be the Devil.. I already sent the Devil to Canada.

But in all seriousness, doesn't sound like it's meant to be, so find OV and ask politely for that shovel smack. You'll find someone worth it.

SONOIL · #13 (**permalink**) 09-06-07, 10:17 AM

Just wondering how one can become so unstable and ignorant and hurt loved/loving feelings like that. What one get out of the situation? What does one think while doing this kind of stuff? I mean how can you change yor mind like that only according to your mood swing? I just don't get it... Wow...