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Mishanya · #31 (**permalink**) 10-04-08, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by blikes22

yeah it does suck to be messed with like this, but I dont understand what her deal is? Why if she is so happy with me out of her life does she have to keep initiating contact?

I dont get it...Why would she want me to be there, if she is so happy since we broke up?

I think she wants you as plan B. Someone to come back to if nothing else works out for her. Dating world can be cruel like that.

I was reading up about negotiation tactics the other day. People ussually have three values, best possible value that they will go for in the beginning, best alternative value, one they go for if the above is too much out their league and best low value for which they will settle if they can't achieve the higher ones but below which they will not go. I've noticed dating world can be like this sometimes as well, only they subsititute values for real people. I hope this is not what's happening in your case bikes.

GrkScorp · #32 (**permalink**) 10-04-08, 09:41 AM

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Originally Posted by Mishanya

I was reading up about negotiation tactics the other day. People ussually have three values, best possible value that they will go for in the beginning, best alternative value, one they go for if the above is too much out their league and best low value for which they will settle if they can't achieve the higher ones but below which they will not go. I've noticed dating world can be like this sometimes as well, only they subsititute values for real people.

Ahh.. the mark of an economist..

cheeze_guy · #33 (**permalink**) 11-04-08, 08:37 AM

dont be a plan B! unless you dont mind bein one of course!

blikes22 · #34 (**permalink**) 02-05-08, 12:45 AM

So I do the whole ignore thing after se contacted me for my sisters address and then there is no contact for two weeks. On Monday i get two emails and two texts before nood, teeling me she has to ask me something. I texted her and she asked me if I wanted to help her look for a new job?

Gigabitch · #35 (**permalink**) 02-05-08, 12:55 AM

Ugh. Message her back a simple "No." and get on with your life.

blikes22 · #36 (**permalink**) 02-05-08, 03:16 AM

I said yes on Monday and she replied with a thanks. I have not heard from her since then.

Mishanya · #37 (**permalink**) 02-05-08, 09:59 AM

It sounds like you could've played around with it more:

Her: Do you want to help me look for a new job?
You: Sounds like a kind of question I can only answer in person. Meet me at 7pm ___ tomorrow
Her: (At ___) So, you want to help me look for a new job?
You: Let me have a look at my diary after the movie, we are watching ___ . I know you like ____ so I got these tickets for us. You can thank me later (smile)
Her: After the movie, so you want to help me look for a new job?
You: Yes that's right, my diary is at my place. I'm cooking ___ for us tonight. You better like ____

blikes22 · #38 (**permalink**) 03-05-08, 05:19 AM

I dont get this response

njbromilow · #39 (**permalink**) 03-05-08, 06:06 AM

she love you and some times you have to be apart from someone to know how much u love them

blikes22 · #40 (**permalink**) 06-05-08, 02:15 AM

Do you really think that is the case?

jinx343 · #41 (**permalink**) 10-05-08, 01:38 PM

dude... im about to go out of my senses reading this thread.

BLIKES WAKE UP!!!!! you go in here asking for advices and opinions when obviously you dont want to hear them!

peepz here kept saying you're being made a fool and you still keep doing it. i'm about to jump out on you already!

you keep saying things over and over again. you just wanna hear that she wants you right??? well, you won't hear it from here coz u need to hear the truth no matter how awful it is.

if she can't make up her mind.. at least MAKE UP YOURS! then you would not definitely have to go over this pull and push thing again and neither will the posters keep repeating what they say.