Never dealt with this before - Love Forum

tman2001 · #1 (**permalink**) 28-04-08, 01:32 AM

About a week ago she somewhat ended out relationship, i say somewhat because she couldnt give me a real reason. I know that it somewhat had to do with her having alot going on in her personal life. After that we talked a few times over the next 2 days and she told me she still cared about me alot and she got pretty emotional. But the situation now is that i have some of her things and she has some of mine, she told me a few days ago that she defenitly did want her stuff but she still wont tell me when she wants it, i had sent her a few text messages asking her very nicely what she wants to do about it and she wouldnt respond. I actually was able to get her on the phone today and she told me that she wants it and when she decides exactly when she wants it back she will text me. She also said she didnt want to talk to me right now.I have never known a girl who didnt want her stuff back as soon as possiable, i think that it makes it a little easier to get over the break up. Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

Tired · #2 (**permalink**) 28-04-08, 01:36 AM

if she still cares for you a lot why does she want all her stuff back? Is this OVER or is it on hold or what? If you think its over just box her stuff up and drop it by her place when shes at work or something.

If you two are ready to severe contact just get it over with and give her your stuff and if shes uncomfortable seeing you for whatever reason ask her if you can get a friend to go pick your stuff up.

tman2001 · #3 (**permalink**) 28-04-08, 01:39 AM

It seems like it is over, but the other day she said she was not sure what was going to happen between us. This all came out of nowhere, there were no signs that she wanted to stop seeing me.

WilsonC · #4 (**permalink**) 12-05-08, 06:03 PM

Sounds like she is still unsure of the decision she made. How do you feel about her? Do you still want to continue or do you want to severe the relationship?

Mishanya · #5 (**permalink**) 13-05-08, 09:45 AM

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Originally Posted by tman2001

She also said she didnt want to talk to me right now.

What a bizzare behaviour. Well, if she doesn't want to talk to you, don't talk to her. Try to get her out of your mind. If I were you I'd do no contact for the next couple of weeks and after that I wouldn't call her myself, but might pick up a call from her if I'm in the mood for it.

Looks like you will have to forget about your stuff for the time being. Was there anything important that she has?

jinx343 · #6 (**permalink**) 13-05-08, 09:47 PM

SHE IS UNSURE. if she is, she could have just gotten her stuff from you a long time ago. or since she initiated the break-up, she could have sent you your stuff soon enough. i guess delaying things is like giving herself time to make a final decision. and she did say she cares about you and the problem was not between you two but with her personally. that's why i think she can't make up her mind.