Ummmm...I Need Help

[camchopper]

This is kinda neat...I have been talking with my sis and bro about this...But I NEED outside help.
Ok Here goes....
I am married with 2 kids, for 11 years. The relationship was not very happy. I wanted to separate for a number of years, but was too afraid that I would not find someone that I would be happy with. Guess what...10 months ago, I did. The problem was that we lived 1500 miles away. We met at some business meetings in her home city, we just hit it off right away. WOW.. We talked every because of business, and I asked her out for dinner one evening. It was fantastic, we talked like old friends, just was Awesome. Nothing happened sexualy because She knew I was married and we decided not to. Well to make a LONG story short...We fell madly in love, we talked a lot on the phone as well as Messanger etc, and we saw each other every 6-8 weeks. It was really hard for her because we were so far away. she had a relationship too, but she too was not happy. Her and her boyfriend of 5 years called it quits but really did not want to be alone. He moved out and that is when I really had a hard time keeping her from getting into the depressed moods. We talked about her moving here...she said YES, But I had to be totally separated from my relationship before that happened. well, fricken months later of saying this....It Just happened, I toal her and all my family about her and that I WAS moving to be with her. Now she tells me that she is not sure anymore. She talked to her X, who ALL her family loves, and I believe that they have all put pressure on her to go back with him. So now that I have done all of this for her(Us), she has said "Why not last week. I do not feel the same way" I am thinking that this is mainly because of the distance between us, I am hoping there is another chance there. So This is what I need Help with!!!
I am going to see her tomorrow...She was kinda unsure if I should come, But she does say she still loves me, she apologized for putting me through this etc. But she said that If I do come, she will be scared that I will sweep her off her feet again. I have not had the balls to ask her why she is scared, because I do not want to give her the opportunity to just think the best way to avoid more stress etc, is maybe to do the easy thing and go back to her X?
Should I Go? Any other suggestions?
Please Hurry...I am totally losing my mind

[cycletease]

You pose an unfair question, here. You ask only for a reply on whether you should go to this girl but you present a situation wrought with problems that really need to be addressed.

Since you only ask for 1 answer, I will give you that. If you want this girl you need to go to her. You have been totally unavailable to her and it is no wonder she is having doubts. If there is a chance of saving this then she needs to see that she will now be the priority.

But since I have a lot of other things to say, I get to put one other point out here as well. You need to be leaving your current relationship for yourself not for someone else.

[camchopper]

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Originally Posted by cycletease

You pose an unfair question, here. You ask only for a reply on whether you should go to this girl but you present a situation wrought with problems that really need to be addressed.

Since you only ask for 1 answer, I will give you that. If you want this girl you need to go to her. You have been totally unavailable to her and it is no wonder she is having doubts. If there is a chance of saving this then she needs to see that she will now be the priority.

But since I have a lot of other things to say, I get to put one other point out here as well. You need to be leaving your current relationship for yourself not for someone else.

I know where you are coming from...I just did not want to make the story too long and boring.
I think I would have left this relationship for myself, This just happened at the same time...I hope I would of????
I am concerned about all the stress she has been going through...we still talk..But I try not to say too much about what we have, or I thought we had. Both of us really felt that WE were meant. Then this changearound..SHould I give her the opportunity to tell me not to come? Or should I try one more time?
I guess what I am saying...Is AM I TOO selfish? Her friend said that maybe she just needed a wake up call and something like her and I getting together to realize she does love her ex. But what I know of her realtionship with her ex, She was not happy, and she always told me that I make her the happiest girl in the world.
So for sure, Just do it. Go see her even if it will be my last?