Please Help Me !!!!! - Love Forum

sarah718 · #1 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 12:56 AM

IM SORTA IN A RELATIONSHIP RIGHT NOW, IM JUST REALLY CONFUSED...I DONNO IF I HAVE MORE FUN WITH MY BOYFRIEND OR MY FRIENDS...NOW MY BOYFRIEND DOESNT WANT ME ANYMORE BECAUSE I SELL HIM OUT ALL THE TIME FOR MY FRIENDS...I STILL LOVE HIM AND EVERYTHING, WE WENT OUT FOR 2 AWESOME YEARS... I HAVE KNOWN MY FRIEND FOR JUST AS LONG OR LONGER BUT I JUST NOW STARTED HANGING OUT WITH HER AGAIN... SHE JUST BROKE UP WITH HER B/F AND IT SEEMS NOW SHE WANTS TO HANG OUT ALITTLE MORE...WHAT IF SHE GETS ANOTHER B/F AND WANTS TO HANG OUT WITH HIM MORE???MY B/F WILL BE GONE AND I WILL HAVE NO ONE TO BE WITH???WHAT SHOULD I DO???PLEASE HELP???

cheazypeaz · #2 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 01:22 AM

personaly i think your boyfriend isnt that special to you, if you choose your mates over him more then it does go to show. yes you could end up with nobody if your mate gets a new boyfriend, thats just how it goes. if i were you, id stick with your boyfreind.

artyemi · #3 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 01:26 AM

why three different posting.. oi.

one is enough, no?

anyway. you don't have to give one up for the other.

boyfriends are friends with extra attention.

friends are friends through thick and thin.

both need to understand that you're only one person.

Chii 288 · #4 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 04:09 AM

If you take your time to be with your friend, risking your relationship then you'd expect the same from her,wouldn't you?
Organise your time- one day you're with your boyfriend, the other with your friend. I cannot see why it shouldn't work out.
Anyway, I'll say: Never in your life leave your friends because of a guy.
But that's the way I see it.

artyemi · #5 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 04:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Chii 288

Anyway, I'll say: Never in your life leave your friends because of a guy.
But that's the way I see it.

It's 50-50, i think, for both the friend and the guy. Don't know the exact details with them, so can't say for certain. But if this guy has always been there for her for the last two years, and this friend has only started wanting to hang out more because she just broke up with her boyfriend. well...

who's to say which one is more worthy?

so sarah.. what are you going to do?

spunkyk77 · #6 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 01:18 PM

Sarah my ex chose towards the end to go out with his friends more than hang out with me and it hurts to become second best after being there for him when his friends weren't.

Yeh totally agree you should spend time with your friends but not every day. I'm not sure how much time your spending with you mates but i think there needs to be equal times spent apart and together. Think about your boyfriend that's been through thick and thin with you for the past 2 years.

If you're having doutbs i'd suggest the best thing you can do is cut him out of your life and see if the grass is greener on the other side. Time is the key maybe you'll love the freedom as my ex has come to realise. Sad, very sad.

Hope i gave you insight from the other side.

Frasbee · #7 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 01:34 PM

COMMIE GO HOME

Only-virgins · #8 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by cheazypeaz

i think your boyfriend isnt that special to you

the end

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Chii 288 · #9 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by artyemi

It's 50-50, i think, for both the friend and the guy. Don't know the exact details with them, so can't say for certain. But if this guy has always been there for her for the last two years, and this friend has only started wanting to hang out more because she just broke up with her boyfriend. well...

who's to say which one is more worthy?

so sarah.. what are you going to do?

Well, that's another thing. But there are mostly cases when poeple just forget about good friends when that "special" one appears as you want to spend more time(if not all the time) with him/her. And when it ends, you're likely to feel alone, without the partner and without your friends.

artyemi · #10 (**permalink**) 07-06-05, 11:33 PM

that's the thing.. one question i always wonder is do we hang out with friends less when we find the special someone or do friends hang out with us less because they expect us to want to hang out with them less when we have the special someone? a little bit of both.

anyway.. sarah isn't being very specific.. she doesn't go into details about what she means by saying she "sold out" her boyfriend.

i don't understand (but maybe I'm being naive) why she can't split time between the two.

JMark · #11 (**permalink**) 08-06-05, 01:10 AM

She's sold out of boyfriends? How much did she sell them for? If the price was too low it's not surprising.

artyemi · #12 (**permalink**) 08-06-05, 01:22 AM

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Originally Posted by JMark

She's sold out of boyfriends? How much did she sell them for? If the price was too low it's not surprising.

lol.. we should find out what market she's selling him in. perhaps au marche aux esclaves..

sarah718 · #13 (**permalink**) 09-06-05, 09:33 AM

sold out my boyfriend is another way of saying that he made plans for me to see him and i picked to go hang out with my friend instead...im getting so many different opinions and it's hard....like i said my friend just now started calling me alot more because she broke up with her boyfriend and now she has no one and she always wants to hang out not thiinking i still have a boyfriend..... i do have alot of fun with her it just seems like me and her make plans before he says anyhting to me but if i tell him that he says we have been going out for 2 years i should'nt have to make plans too see you??? he has been really good to me except of course now because he thinks im the worse person in the world.... i just dont know, some people tell me i made a big mistake for not spending time with him and some peope say stay with your friend???

Frasbee · #14 (**permalink**) 09-06-05, 11:00 AM

When in doubt.

Don't make 3 ****in' duplicates of your thread and have a milkshake.