I need some advice here. I broke up with my ex girlfriend of 3 years, 6 months ago after I found out she had cheated on me.
Long story short, I moved out to live with her for the duration of our relationship. we both met & worked in a summer holiday resort, we arranged our lives so that we could live & work in the same location during the summer so we could be together.
We had a great relationship. Loving, passionate & fun for most of it. We had fights like most couples do. During the summer just past, we had been bickering for a couple of weeks before I found out she had cheated on me with a tourist who was on holiday for a week. i knew something was wrong because she was totally avoiding me, acting very distant & had guilt written all over her face.
I so happened to get an unexpected night off work, went to where she worked & saw this guy & her being very close until she noticed me. she spent the night avoiding us both, but couldn't look me in the eye. I knew right away what had went on that week as soon as I had saw them together. This was the night before this guy went home, so she almost got away with it, only fate had different ideas.
The next day from this, this guy was gone, but she couldn't look me in the eye & she was still acting very distant, she wouldn't speak to me, but was glued to her phone. I knew it was this guy she was texting while i was sat with her!! Anyway, I waited another day to see if she would say anything & she didn't, so i confronted her. She tried to deny it at first, but when she saw how angry i was & that she was caught, she eventually admitted to me that she really liked this guy a lot. I ended it there & then. She pleaded with me not to, but i always told her if she ever cheated that would be it.
I left there early & returned to my country. This guy lives in a bordering country to mine. I removed my ex from all social immediately & deleted all photos of us together, because I couldn't bare to look at her face & be reminded of what she had done. A mutual friend has since told me that she deleted pics of us. This is something she never ever does, she still kept in contact with all of her exes (who she claimed cheated on her) on her social media & pics of them. I never really bothered much, as it was just pictures & she is big on capturing everything in life & we once had this conversation where she said she never deletes pictures because its all memories, so why did she deleted pics of me & times we shared together?
Anyway, my friend said a couple of weeks after she deleted my pics, photos of her & this guy appeared. He has been out to visit her, met her friends & she's posted pics of them, tagging #Boy #Girl #Together. Is that the same as writing boyfriend/girlfriend? Or just a roundabout way of saying it? I know this because I stupidly asked my friend to let me see. I'm not going to lie, although I ended it with her almost 6 months ago, it still hurt, seeing her with this guy that ended our relationship. I know this sounds stupid, but they're not hugging in any of their pictures, some he has his arm around her, but she doesn't have her arm around him. She's not as smitten or as smiley in their pictures as the ones from when our relationship was knew. I know I shouldn't compare it, but I can't help ask what is she doing?
She ended a great relationship by cheating with this loser, thinking she wouldn't get caught. We were not just lovers, we were best friends. She says she really likes this guy? I have since found out that this guy went out to see her again not long after I left, so they've pretty much started dating before my side of the bed was even cold. I know I shouldn't bother about this, and its none of my business what she does now, but it stings knowing she's in a relationship with the guy she cheated with & I know it sounds silly, but deleting pictures of me. Why? Is this just a rebound relationship?
Part of me was happy to see that she wasn't smitten with him in the pictures, but it was a killer seeing that he has been out to the place where we both lived together & that he's now met her friends. Another part of me hopes that this is just a rebound relationship and if its long distance, this guy is going to need to do what I done and give up his life to move out to be with her, because I know she won't leave her family.
Any input would be appreciated.