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    i want my girl back so much

    6 weeks ago my gf broke up after 2.5 years together.
    we met in holland when she worked here, later she went back to poland.
    we spend all hollidays together and i went there almost 2 x a month.
    i was her first real bf and we were very happy most of the time.
    she diddnt like me drinking to much, but often i did.
    i started drinking less but she broke up and said it was to late.
    she broke up on messenger so i went to poland to say normal goodbye.
    we met in a bar and talked for 3 hours wich was very nice.
    she is much younger then me and ofcourse there is distance.
    also yesterday she found out she has hormon problem witch couses moodswings.
    but i realy want her back
    anybody with a good idea?

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    This is the case where you deliberately didnt post her side of the story isnt it?

    She left you because she could not take the long distance anymore and additionally you just werent any good for her.
    Drinking so much, being older and everything.

    You want her back - but she doesnt want you the way you are now.
    And personally if I were you, id either accept that.
    Or: I'd change myself (if I thought she is right about me)
    I'd tell her exactly what I am gonna change and that I would like her to talk to me again if it happened (and also that I will possibly seduce her again at that time)
    and I'd create an outlook where both of you can actually be together for good and lead a happy normal life.

    If that is not possible - do herself a favour and let her go. She has the right to lead a fullfilling life on her own - without you getting her away from it all the time.
    If you at least had a future where you could be together - that would be a different matter.
    But it doesnt look to me as if that was the case?!
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    our plan was when she finischt study she would come live with me in holland thats the reason she went study in gdansk so we have an easy conection.
    for the rest i was doing pretty good with drinking less and follow also therapy.
    i did pretty much everything for her and to make her happy.
    she also told me that it would be hard to find a new guy becouse now she has very high expectations.
    but she said i was not the same person anymore as in the beginning.
    i respect her decision if she truly dont want me anymore.
    but if i could win back her love somehow i would, becouse i never loved a woman so much.
    letting her go hurts like hell
    and im afraid she is making a mistake becouse we were also very good together.

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