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    Broken 'cheating' love...

    I am 43y male and met a beautiful, clever, wonderful 32y 2 years ago that 'got me' in a way no other woman had ever managed before. We shared magical times & both helped each other through similar difficult divorces.. I have a 5 year old daughter and went through a long and arduous legal process at huge emotional and financial cost to get access & now get alternate weekends and one pick up from school a week which I am happy with.

    The problems started when I wasn't prepared to compromise my time with my little girl over my girlfriend. I matched our weekends with her children and it worked wonderfully but continual fighting, comparisons of affection, showing too much 'clinginess' to my daughter & fall outs resulted in swapping back the weekends. Don't get me wrong this girl meant the World to me but it seemed unnatural to not devote myself to being the best Dad I could be.. A result of this meant I continually pushed her away and months of falling out and getting back together. It scared me and I never gave her any indication of a future despite her concerns. (Home/marriage/kids!)

    Three months ago I found out she had been cheating on me with an old boy friend when we were going through a rough patch & although I don't know what happened I am pretty sure they slept together. (She admitted it and then later retracted saying she was just telling me what I wanted to hear so we could move on!) We broke up for good but I just cannot get this girl out of my head and have returned looking for validation and to try and repair what we had but have simply resulted in hurting myself more... I know she is desperate to be loved and text's/calls me all the time telling me such and I so want to make it work because I fear I will never find that connection again or find a woman that get's me in a way she did..

    I was always faithful to her despite her concerns that I was being unfaithful and after reading up about stuff realize she was very codependent insisting on being by her side all the time, keeping in touch via text and calls & frowning on any female interaction from my part. She cheated on her husband of 10 years with a married man (Who surprisingly didn't leave his wife for her!) to exit her marriage & physically assaulted me one time in a fit of jealous rage as I started getting along with my ex wife (So I could see my daughter more) I know she is a car crash & the future spells nothing but trouble but for 14 weeks now I have been stuck in a mental loop and going insane with it fearful that I will never meet anyone who 'got me' in the way she did & am scared of the future.

    Here's the best bit....& she told me this! She was straight on Tinder during our last split and hooked up with a guy within 5 days and told me filthy intimate things that they did together. She called me 3 weeks ago to say she was going for a day out with him but didn't want to & she wanted me. Being a sucker and not wanting anyone else to have her I spent 3 days with her in a vain attempt to try and resolve everything (again!) & again due to me requesting she showed me dozens of intimate messages (some slutty!) shared with her and different men on Facebook & SnapChat. She said she has slept with 2 men since our split but I suspect 3-4! She also told me she had a sexual experience with one of her girl friends months ago! WTF

    I know she's doing this to make me feel jealous and simply moving on with her life but I have completely lost my compass & sanity over this. Her social network is mainly male friends, has a colorful sexual past but has said to me if I can make that commitment she will agree to move away. close all her social media down and start a new fresh life with our girls.

    I know what the correct answer is here & feel a little embarrassed even writing this. I have been ill the last three months since we split, lost weight, been unable to concentrate on my career or family despite looking after myself and doing all the right things.

    I know I need to put distance between the two of us & focus on myself but I still keep getting these insane nagging doubts. I have deleted her from all social media but find myself driving past her house, taking routes home which I know she uses in the hope of just seeing here..

    Feel a bit of a laughing stock even reading over what I have written but here goes...

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    congratulations on finding yourself a nymphomaniac sex slave.
    I dont see where the problem is. If you like who she is then go for it.
    Get yourself some threesomes if youd like. be sure to challenge her in the bed (and out).

    The problem is not that she is ****ing other people. You are both old enough to not put so much value in that. The problem is that she obviously feels she cant be honest with you. Also if she feels the need on cheating there is an area in her life (and i suspect it is sexually) that you do not quite fullfill yet.
    The problem lies in communicating what you both want. She is scared to openly admit what a slut she really is and what she wants
    and you are not able to deal with it.

    as i get it you are a dad who is only part time seeing his daughter and in the mean time should be able to enjoy his life.
    Im not sure where this whole marriage thing comes from and im not sure that is the way you both want.
    I would suggest you go and do with her whatever the **** you want and enjoy yourself.
    Stop being so uptight about life. I dont see why everything in your life is complicated. It was before, but now your situation seems setteled.
    you just gotta find out what you want
    and what she wants (and how she wants it)

    id tie her up (if she likes that) and then make her to tell you the absolute truth about her sluttyness while you make her enjoy her time with you.
    problem solved.

    are you like some engineer or accountant or something that you have to overthink like this?
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