lack of experience - Love Forum

marky 31 · #1 (**permalink**) 21-03-06, 02:10 AM

Hi i am an older guy, not realy old but in my 30s's ! and I have been single 10 yrs, no , before you ask I am not ugly! but I am nervous about relationships coz I havent had much experience. is inexperience a turnoff ?

Mark

Late_vamp · #2 (**permalink**) 21-03-06, 02:26 AM

yes unless your a high school boy .

Converse · #3 (**permalink**) 21-03-06, 02:35 AM

I don't think it's a turn off, sounds like you're lacking confidence. If I really like a man and he is inexprienced I'm not gonna say "Ugh no way!" Plus you can learn things.

Only-virgins · #4 (**permalink**) 21-03-06, 02:42 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by marky 31

is inexperience a turnoff ?

Seems like a man with a lack of experience is a turn off for women, its the other way around for men.

vashti · #5 (**permalink**) 21-03-06, 03:05 AM

I do think that people generally feel that lack of experience at a certain age is indicative of "issues". Personally, I would worry that a man who goes that long without interaction with women lacks a sex drive, and would possibly lack the abililty to compromise once in a relationship. However, I don't think inexperience is an unsurmountable problem.

Why are you avoiding women?

XPixiedustX · #6 (**permalink**) 23-03-06, 11:58 AM

40 year old virgin!!! lol I heard it was a cute movie....

Um yeah, i guess it depends on the girl, there are many girls who are in their thirties and don't have much experience. Personally I feel the only thing experience does is makes you a lil more confident, cuz everyone is different in terms of what stimulates them, what positions they like, what their "hotspots" are. And while some guys claim they are "pros" either they have slept with soo many women that essentially they have all the major types down, or they are just confident, and confidence(not excessive) can make even a so so guy pretty damn good in bed.
So you just need to stop walking around with a board on your head that says, "i'm inexperienced" and become more confident, tell yourself that you can do it, and when you finally reach the point where you are about to have sex, listen to her, try different things see how she responds...

Illusional · #7 (**permalink**) 23-03-06, 03:13 PM

didn't you see the 40-year old virgin?? you're on your way to a discussion about tits that feel like a bag of sand. however, for me, i'd rather have a girl with less experience because she can learn along the way.

raverboy