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Ashliejae · #1 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 08:41 AM

I brought it up and i said how i felt and he got all bent out of shape about it. Like at that moment i was packing my things, and telling him i hated him i understand it attacked some part of his man hood telling him that i wanted more then 2 min's of trying to have sex and then him going and hidding. Now all he has done is stare at the wall drink vodka and get high i don't know if this means i should end it or push the issue more. He really didn't say a lot but he did hint that his last few relationships didn't work because of it. I did try to push it a bit and he said he was embarrassing and he couldn't talk about it and thats the last that was said about it today. I guess i don't know what to do what do you all think any idea's i'd love to hear them

Kromat · #2 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 09:00 AM

Depends on how you feel about him and If he's willing to change.
If he's still acting like he was before and didn't try something to improve his image, then I just suggest finding someone that doesn't put himself down and makes others suffer with him.
He should be open about how he feels, and not hide from his problems.

Ashliejae · #3 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 09:46 AM

oh this does go with my other post he has a premature ejaculation problem and hes been not dealing with it and after mth and mths ive finally talked to him about it thats where this come up its a follow up

Illusional · #4 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 10:08 AM

first... you might want to post a link to your previous thread or atleast sorta sum up the story. i dunno know you were the premature girl, and here i was ready to talk about you moving away because i got you mixed up with another female.

i'd say give him some time. getting drunk and high are stupid, but it's something that i would also do when confronted with this sorta problem. you just want to forget about it for the moment.

later, bring it up again because if he's had this problem for a while, i'm sure that there are some form of "magic pills" that he can get from his doctor to help him out... that is, if he's willing to keep you by his side.

raverboy

misombra · #5 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 10:15 AM

what are you doing with this guy?

Illusional · #6 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 10:23 AM

c'mon mis... it's not until she started to get intimate with him that she learned about his problem. guys like this don't come with a warning label.

raverboy

vashti · #7 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 10:44 AM

If you love him, tell him so, and then tell him you want to work this out together with a professional. Lots of men have this problem; be sure you tell him this, and tell him it is possible to fix it.

Ashliejae · #8 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 11:05 AM

Alright I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about a year and we have been having sex since august. This is really hard for me. I think he has pre-mature ejaculation problems. At first i though he was just nervous and then i though maybe it was me. But after weeks and weeks of this i do not know what to think. Most times we dont even start having sex, before he has blown his load. And instead of talking about it he goes and dose the dishes. I am very confused and i do not know how to bring it up. I do not want to hurt him but i can no longer take it it is hard to deal with. And it makes me very sad. I am sure there is already a post about this but i could not find it.

sorry didnt even think of that heres my previous post

Illusional · #9 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 12:28 PM

yeah i can tell that you copied and pasted this post because it's exactly the same with the exact same errors too haha.

raverboy

Ashliejae · #10 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 02:51 PM

well lets all thank god that English is not what i am going to college for

Illusional · #11 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 03:47 PM

so what are you in college for??

raverboy

Gigabitch · #12 (**permalink**) 08-01-08, 12:59 AM

Well, I think you should blow him first and then demand to be sexually satisfied an hour later. if he still doesn't last, you have a major problem.

Otherwise, though, he sounds like a loser. Usually girls will stick with a guy like that because of sex, not in spite of it.

Ashliejae · #13 (**permalink**) 08-01-08, 02:12 AM

Oh i have tried the whole blow job thing, the jack you off thing, any thing i can think of. He gets finished and gets dressed. I am not going to demand that he gets me off. If he doesn't want to then why force him. And i stay with him because I love him. He has issues yes but so does everyone. He still gets up and goes to work everyday, and cleans. Hes not out getten arrested i just want to be able to have sex with my boyfriend. It is something very important to me.

As for what i am in college for Business, German, and Philosophy

Gigabitch · #14 (**permalink**) 08-01-08, 02:13 AM

Well, you deserve what you settle for, I guess. Me, I wouldn't be able to stand that.

Ashliejae · #15 (**permalink**) 08-01-08, 02:28 AM

your telling me that not only am i stupid but i should break up with a person i love because they have problems. I posted this because i need help having sex with my boyfriend and would have liked some idea's not how or why i should break up with him. And with the thinking process that its someone else's job to get me off is naive.