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14-03-08, 02:09 PM
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Originally Posted by MadKat  why i can remember well my partner's cycle(cuz she's on pill), and most of the time i get "don't touch me" when in bed...  and i'm not even in the mood to jerk off...!!
maybe i should just dump her. selfish asshole. i think that she should kick your nut sack for saying this because you're insensitive. may you get herpes and your dick fall off!!
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14-03-08, 11:34 PM
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Originally Posted by MadKat why i can remember well my partner's cycle(cuz she's on pill), and most of the time i get "don't touch me" when in bed.. Wow. I want to break up with her. Why don't you?
Originally Posted by lesa I don't want him to treat me differently (besides sex)during that time. Speak for yourself. I want special treatment and he has to be careful with my tender, PMS-affected nipples. I need red wine and bubble baths.
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15-03-08, 05:00 AM
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Originally Posted by Illusional who here wouldn't mind having sex while the female in on the period?? *Tedel raises his hand*
Lesa, when you have intimacy with a man, I think you both have the right to know this:
1. How many other sexual partners you both have had.
2. Whether you have undergone any STD/HIV test after the last time.
3. What would you do if you eventually get pregnant.
Sex is above all, communication, don't forget that.
I always remark people should not have sex until they are ready to bear a child nine months later. Condoms fail, enough said.
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15-03-08, 05:07 AM
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Originally Posted by Tedel I think you both have the right to know this:
1. Whether or not they are a virgin or a whore.
2. Whether you have undergone any STD/HIV test after the last time.
3. What would you do if you eventually get pregnant.
There, I fixed it for you.
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Originally Posted by Tedel
Lesa, when you have intimacy with a man, I think you both have the right to know this:
1. How many other sexual partners you both have had.
I have to disagree on this, and semi-agree with Vash's 'correction'.
No one has the 'right' to know about anyone's sexual history. In fact, I would rather NOT know. The one time I asked and found out, I was very distraught....shouldn't have asked in the first place.
Really, it makes no difference if your relationship is sound. The only thing that you might want to let the other person know (like Vash said) is whether or not you are a virgin. If you've slept with A LOT of people, I still think you should keep that to yourself, and be responsible enough to get tested for STD's on a frequent basis.
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Originally Posted by Mishanya Tell me? I kinda just, always know when it is. Let's just say I am ussually deeply acquainted with my partners  do you send in a search submarine? aaaaaaaaajajajaaaa.
omg. dirty thirties here i come.
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15-03-08, 10:51 AM
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Originally Posted by Tedel *Tedel raises his hand*
wow... where have art thou been brother??
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15-03-08, 02:39 PM
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Originally Posted by bluesummer I have to disagree on this, and semi-agree with Vash's 'correction'.
No one has the 'right' to know about anyone's sexual history. In fact, I would rather NOT know. The one time I asked and found out, I was very distraught....shouldn't have asked in the first place.
Really, it makes no difference if your relationship is sound. The only thing that you might want to let the other person know (like Vash said) is whether or not you are a virgin. If you've slept with A LOT of people, I still think you should keep that to yourself, and be responsible enough to get tested for STD's on a frequent basis. I guess what I meant is that virginity is important for some people. They have a right to know if they are not dating a virgin. I believe they also have a right to know if they are dating someone who is currently promiscuous, as in they are continuing to sleep with whomever is available. Specific numbers of past sexual partners is no one's business, and sharing this info can be harmful.
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Originally Posted by Tedel
Lesa, when you have intimacy with a man, I think you both have the right to know this:
1. How many other sexual partners you both have had.
2. Whether you have undergone any STD/HIV test after the last time.
3. What would you do if you eventually get pregnant.
Sex is above all, communication, don't forget that.
I always remark people should not have sex until they are ready to bear a child nine months later. Condoms fail, enough said.
Yes, I make sure we discuss all three topics before sexual intercourse. I think that it is necessary and have done it in all my past and present relationships.
I must say that #1 is difficult to discuss and I think I really don't want to know. When I was a virgin, I did not discuss #1 with my first partner because I thought that he did not need to know (I know strange). But it became a long term relationship but we broke up because he wanted children and I was not ready for marriage and children although we were engaged.
It is much easier for me to discuss these things with my new partner now that I older and wiser. However, I don't need to know the number of sexual partners he had (he told me, but it may be an estimate haha). What is important is his results of his STI/HIV test since last partner and whether he has desire for children and what steps needed to prevent pregnancy, and make sure he wants an exclusive relationship.  | |
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18-03-08, 12:03 AM
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| | | Illusional, according to a friend of mine, who is a gyno, there isn't anything wrong in having sex while she's menstruating... if she's comfortable with that, of course.
I didn't have oral sex, by the way.
About telling how many sexual partners you have had (or an estimation), I don't find anything wrong with that. If you don't feel comfortable enough, OK, don't disclose your numbers... yet I wonder how come you can have sexual intimacy with someone in which you cannot trust completely.
Sounds two-faced, but well, maybe it's just another of my idealist thoughts.
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18-03-08, 10:36 AM
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Originally Posted by Tedel Illusional, according to a friend of mine, who is a gyno, there isn't anything wrong in having sex while she's menstruating... if she's comfortable with that, of course.
I didn't have oral sex, by the way.
About telling how many sexual partners you have had (or an estimation), I don't find anything wrong with that. If you don't feel comfortable enough, OK, don't disclose your numbers... yet I wonder how come you can have sexual intimacy with someone in which you cannot trust completely.
Sounds two-faced, but well, maybe it's just another of my idealist thoughts. I don't think it's about trust, but rather privacy. Also perhaps, protecting your new partner from uncomfortable feelings.
Also, next time do oral.
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Originally Posted by Tedel I don't find anything wrong with that. If you don't feel comfortable enough, OK, don't disclose your numbers... yet I wonder how come you can have sexual intimacy with someone in which you cannot trust completely.
Sounds two-faced, but well, maybe it's just another of my idealist thoughts. It's very idealistic.
Would you want to know that your girlfriend at one time had a dick in each hand, mouth, ass, and pussy? +5
Would you want to know that she sucked off a donkey?
I don't even know what that would count as. +?
Would you want to know that she regularly shoved her tongue in some other guy's ass? + 1
No, of course not.
I think most people would think you're a weirdo/jealous control freak if you inquire about the number of people/things they've screwed.
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| | OK, although I personally don't mind at all (and I mean it), maybe you're right... many people would feel uncomfortable with so many details.
Why Vashti? Is there any secret ther to share? 
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19-03-08, 08:10 AM
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Originally Posted by Tedel OK, although I personally don't mind at all (and I mean it), maybe you're right... many people would feel uncomfortable with so many details.
Why Vashti? Is there any secret ther to share? Yes. It's been so long since I slept with anyone but my husband, I can't even remember who I did it with.
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