Must she tell you when she is on her monthly cycle? - Love Forum

lesa · #1 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 08:27 AM

Hi guys. I want a male (female too) perspective on a situation. Do you expect your partner to let you know when she is on her “cycle” if expecting physical intimacy? Is it a problem if she does not want to always disclose this information? Is it immature to not discuss these things?

Jennifyr · #2 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 08:32 AM

I inform them, I think they should know. Sometimes it changes what we *coughcough* DO!!!

bluesummer · #3 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 08:33 AM

I always tell my bf. Just so he knows that I'm not turning him down for sex because I'm disinterested. I think it depends on the couple, because there are some couples that don't mind having sex while the woman has her period. I am not one of those people.

Jennifyr · #4 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 08:34 AM

I agree. I had a friend who would never tell her bf when she had her period, and he ended up breaking up with her because of it.

lesa · #5 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 08:56 AM

Thanks Jennifyr and bluesummer. Well I think I have significantly ruined my 7 month relationship with my bf because I failed to tell him before we got intimate. He said he was not angry but he went on about poor and immature communication. He said that I have never been disinterested before and he wondered what was wrong. I never had to tell by ex-bf and it was an almost 8 year relationship. I guess I am not so use to this new relationship and disclosing it. I feel really bad now because it should have been simple to say rather than make him wonder what was wrong. Lesson learned. I did not know that he was disturbed about this until two weeks have past.

Frasbee · #6 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 09:53 AM

My girlfriend always tells me.

Why wouldn't you?

Most guys will just shrug and go jerk off in the bathroom.

Or at least ask for a blow/hand job.

Illusional · #7 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 09:58 AM

does it really matter if she tells you or not?? personally i would rather know the information because i know when she's really horny and on the flip side, i'll know when she's going to get bitchy. you then can choice if you want to be around her or not.

raverboy

lesa · #8 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 11:07 AM

I don't want him to treat me differently (besides sex)during that time. My emotions and behavior are the same no matter the time of month. I still like to spend time and be intimate in other ways. I don't want him to leave me alone or treat me differently.

Mishanya · #9 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 11:18 AM

Tell me? I kinda just, always know when it is. Let's just say I am ussually deeply acquainted with my partners

Illusional · #10 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 11:44 AM

who here wouldn't mind having sex while the female in on the period??

raverboy

vashti · #11 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 11:49 AM

If you've been seeing him for 7 months, this sounds like a silly reason to break up. Are you sure there wasn't something else going on?

And yeah, I don't know why you didn't just tell him. If he refuses to be affectionate with you because it's your time to bleed, he is just an ass who needs to be dumped.

MadKat · #12 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 12:00 PM

why i can remember well my partner's cycle(cuz she's on pill), and most of the time i get "don't touch me" when in bed...

and i'm not even in the mood to jerk off...!!

maybe i should just dump her.

PussyCatDoll · #13 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 10:23 PM

i don't tell him.. he can tell. you're gona dump her over this?

lesa · #14 (**permalink**) 13-03-08, 11:10 PM

I agree vashti. He was more concerned about the lack of communication. If I told him that "I did not feel like it", he said he would have been fine. It was more of a trust issue too. We are in a LDR (long distance relationship), and my disinterest made it appear that I may have been cheating or something -- something I could never do.

I think we are find now. I just needed to work on better communicating.

GrkScorp · #15 (**permalink**) 14-03-08, 01:12 AM

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Originally Posted by lesa

Hi guys. I want a male (female too) perspective on a situation. Do you expect your partner to let you know when she is on her “cycle” if expecting physical intimacy? Is it a problem if she does not want to always disclose this information? Is it immature to not discuss these things?

It's not immature to not talk about it, but it's just a matter of respect to let your partner know..

Imagine throwing a b*tch-storm at your partner, and him throwing it right back at you, arguing, and cornering you until he drives you mad, and then all of a sudden it's "his fault".. but really, it's not.. because he didn't know.. you didn't tell him..

A really simple thing to do, is make a schedule, just for one month.. and mark down the days you have your period +/- 2 days.. (before it starts, after it ends).. That way, he knows that during that time, you're not exactly being your regular self, and he knows to be a little more understanding and considerate when you start flying off on tangents, to just ignore and let those things go; to have them excused..

I never really found a girl's period to be an issue.. In fact, every single girl that has had their period and I've had sex with, has insisted that we have sex during their period.. You can always hear this comming..

- Her: "Do guys think it's wierd to have sex when a girl has her period?"
- Her: "Really? So, it wouldn't bother you? You wouldn't get grossed out?"
- Me: "Not if she's really in the mood, if anything, i'd be turned-on by the fact that she's so turned-on and in the mood.. for as long as she's clean, it's not a problem"

And so, there was always plenty of "bloody sex" (that's a bit of an overstatement, there was usually not that much blood on the condom) going on during her period.. Each and every one said the same thing, "best sex of my life, ahhh it felt so good".. And really, they were like females in heat, they just had to have it..

If you think that's gross; one my LTR, I went so far as to make sure she cleaned up well, and actually gave her oral while she had her period (no blood, but tasted very different).. This was a sort of ritual we had for years.. It actually helped let her enjoy herself on a whole new level, knowing now for a fact that I didn't feel any reservations or limitations about doing anything sexually.. and once she got over the idea that it was somehow gross (it really isn't.. there was never any blood; plus she really enjoyed it; REALLY enjoyed it.. and that's all that matters)