How often is it normal to shag?

[Hellfire]

I'm curious how many times is kinda usual to be having sex. I've read a lot of posts and see 3-4 times a week coming up often and appearing normal. Are most guys happy with that?

I feel like my boyfriend (22) is absolutely sex mad, but perhaps I'm wrong. He wants sex, as in legitimately wants sex and wants it now, about 3-4 times daily. It can't be a quickie either, it lasts at least an hour each time. At first it was great I suppose, but we've been together for over 2 years now. If I refuse he gets really angry and disappointed and either holds me down whilst he masturbates over me or watches porn to get off.

I feel sorta like he's saying "well you're not good enough, so I'll go elsewhere". It's been going on so long now that whenever he starts with me the bottom drops out of my stomach and I start to feel stressed and worried, not a real turn on. Then, because I'm not turned on he gets annoyed again and the cycle continues.

I'm not sure whether it's me that isn't enough or whether he is wanting too much. We still have sex about 5-7 times a week, but I'm beginning to hate it because I get made to feel so useless at other times anyway.

All advice welcome,
Hellfire (21)

[mtinlove]

wow.....okay everybody is different. when my boyfriend and i first starting dating that all sounds familiar...the times per week i mean. Now we honestly have to find time to have sex. If one of us is in the mood and the other isnt because they dont feel good, are tired, or are stressed...etc etc...its not a big deal because when we do have sex its amazing and we both enjoy it.... if he gets aggressive when you say no, hell i would let him go watch porn and take care of himself...if it bothers you then honestly tell him and if he doesnt change maybe you need to consider leaving...

[keonibaloni]

holding you down while he burps the worm is kinda weird. isn't that some sort of abuse?

[Illusional]

that is bullshit. being that you two have been together for so long, he SHOULD respect you enough to listen to what you also want. if you don't have to have sex at that very moment, then tough shit for him because sex is a two person party.

being that he holds you down to get what he wants is a bit like forcing you into doing something that you don't want. i'm not sure if it would be considered rape, but you can always argue for attempted, and yes, it's against your bf.

you'd better straighten out your man or this won't be the last thing that he takes advantage of.

raverboy

[Gigabitch]

Okay, you might be shocked that I, of all people, am saying this, but that is just too much sex. He's unbalanced. There is something really off about that guy.

Start slipping birth control pills into his food.

Just kidding. That would be irresponsible. Just because I would do that doesn't mean I should suggest that anyone else do it.

Are you happy with him otherwise? For me to put up with that kind of weirdness, he'd have to be pretty wonderful in all other respects.

[IndiReloaded]

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Originally Posted by Gigabitch

Okay, you might be shocked that I, of all people, am saying this, but that is just too much sex. He's unbalanced. There is something really off about that guy.

Start slipping Salt Petre into his food.

Fixed your post Giga.

Hellfire, 3 - 4 times a week is about average for a new young relationship. Your guy is probably using sex as a release for other issues (like stress release). Tell him to masturbate in the ams if he needs more, lots of guys do. If he gets a full time job he'll be more tired, also, lol.

[squirrley]

I dont know if Im jealous. Maybe cause Im in my prime. But typically 3 or 4 times a week is normal. He's in his prime. He should respect you if you want to back off. If he's that horned up he can take care of it himself!

[bluesummer]

No no guys, she said 3-4 times DAILY. That made me ****ing cringe....how do you walk???

Three to four times a week is pretty normal, but your bf is asking for too much, and also taking your enjoyment away from sex. He needs a reality check, holy crap.

Three to four times DAILY?!?? Sorry, I'm still not over it.

[vashti]

3-4 times daily times 1 hour per session? Who has the time? Tell him he has too much free time on his hands.

And BTW - if someone actually held me down and masturbated on me in anger, I'd be awfully tempted to pull a Lorena Bobbit job on him. Bastard.

[1averagejoe]

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Originally Posted by IndiReloaded

Fixed your post Giga.

What does it do? I know it's potassium nitrate, found in some fertilizers, stump removers, and used in some foods. But what exactly does it do to someone?

And 3-4 times a day?!?!?? I'd probably be sore as hell after a week of that.

[PussyCatDoll]

he should be a porn star. and you shouldn't lay down and take his shit. come on woman! wake up

[lesa]

Something doesn't sound right. Be careful he may be (or become) a potential sex offender.

[Off2College]

i don't believe Hellfire

[IndiReloaded]

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Originally Posted by 1averagejoe

What does it do? I know it's potassium nitrate, found in some fertilizers, stump removers, and used in some foods. But what exactly does it do to someone?

It used to be given to inmates and soldiers to reduce their libido. I don't know if there is an understood mechanism of action, or if its even proven to work except anecdotally. If it does have an effect, its probably through some kind of inhibition of NAS (nitric oxide synthase)--for the biochemists in the house. You need NO for an erection (that's how viagra works).

DON'T actually try this at home. I expect it can be quite toxic; potassium can affect the heart & muscle function. Nitrate in high quantity will mess up your liver.

[Illusional]

hello... did anyone read the freaking post?? who cares about the frequency.. it's much more the forceful part that concerns me.

raverboy