Sex guilt?

[leight69]

After a prolonged period of no physical intimacy in the past month I've had varying degrees of sexual contact (shy of actual intercourse) with a few different girls (Kiss goodnight, making out, and most recently stuff a little more hardcore). Two nights ago while reeeeeeeeally drunk I just got naked with my (former) roomate (last night of my lease). She is the biggest committaphobe girl, but indicated to then that she wants to **** untill she moves out of town (in about 2 weeks from now). So basically I get 2 weeks of strings free sex right? - (as a side: Not that i wouldn't wear a condom, but I also know that she can't have any kids...longer story)

Now get this though - I don't want it. For that matter any of the girls I've done anything with I didn't enjoy, with one exception. That exception being a girl I went out with a few times but she went back to her ex. I would have liked to have gone out with her (before the whole getting back with her ex thing). Otherwise I didn't want to date any of the girls, and when something happened I felt bad (for lack of a better word) about it.

This isn't the first time this has happened, everytime I've done something casually I felt shitty about it. Even when the girls I was with just wanted something casual too. I realised I don't enjoy physical/intimate contact with someone unless I want a relationship with them. The hell is wrong with me?
Has any other guy experienced this? Its totaly contrary to the messaging i've gotten through society...

Just thought I'd share this...

[squirrley]

Youre growing up...you want more in a relationship and see sex as something more emotional rather than just getting your willy wet. Which is great! This isnt a bad thing here! Youre starting to find yourself and your self worth as well.

This is a good thing!!! Im sure you'll get lots of opinions on this one-

[Fawn]

I agree with squirley....

But I don't find it to unusual. Sometimes, you just hit that stage where you want to have an emotional connection with that person, instead of just physical. Yes, it can be a good thing too. There is more out there then just sex....

[leight69]

the thing is, I think I might always have thought this way. looking back on ALL of my experience the only girls I've enjoyed any sort of physical intimacy with I was either in a relationship or wanted to be in. Casual though? always felt guilty about, or bad or whatever....

a friend of mine who I met through an ex. (he's close to her, but we're still stayed friends) always used to tell me after that breakup that "there's nothing wrong with casual sex" - I used to think he'd tell me that just to encourage me to get with more women, but i dunno. I still feel bad about it.

It's just a greater point has been made on this recently as there has been a string of incidents in the past months or so...