Is oral sex really THAT important????

[littleme]

I agree with Lite, I think ur doing it wrong.

[CAM]

hey now don't be dissing!!!

Responding to rebuffs is not allowed, eh?

[CAM]

I agree with Lite, I think ur doing it wrong.

I put "it" in ear left nostril, right?

[misombra]

Responding to rebuffs is not allowed, eh?

well i happened to get my degree in the subject that you're dissing on.

[Frasbee]

OOOOO!

Cam totally dissed Misombra's hard work and spent money!

[misombra]

that's fuked up.

[Frasbee]

that's fuked up.

Totally ****ed up.

What you gonna do 'Sombra, hm?

What you gonna do?

[Aeradalia]

I'm not a huge fan. In terms of fellatio, I don't like a woman to do that to me. I think it is demeaning to women. I sense that women who like doing it to guys are often into it for reasons of sexual power or because they emulate porn starlets (or both).

I will have to disagree with you there. I do not find the act of fellatio to be demeaning toward women at all. Neither am I trying to impose sexual power over a man or emulate porn stars.

There are two reasons why I specifically enjoy fellatio.

The first being that it caters well to my accommodative nature. I love to please... to do nice, thoughtful things. It makes me feel very good... just the act of giving... and knowing he approves just about sends me to the moon --- I'm doing something he likes. I like the rewards for being a 'good girl'; not the thrill of having control over him.

The other being that I am genuinely attracted to male anatomy. Despite all the oddities of a penis and testicles... I just like the way they look and appeal to the other senses. Engaging in fellatio allows me to immerse myself completely in this attraction.

Then of course... I like to show my love and affection through fellatio as well as other aspects of sex. But those two reasons are the prominent selfish reasons I do it.

[Aeradalia]

I think I would need to do a lot of thinking if I were to give up receiving cunnilingus. At least a week's worth or more. Oral sex may be a luxury... but it's one that I've grown rather fond of having in relationships.

[Sonrisa]

I think I would need to do a lot of thinking if I were to give up receiving cunnilingus. At least a week's worth or more. Oral sex may be a luxury... but it's one that I've grown rather fond of having in relationships.

when was the last time you had one?

[vashti]

I could never give that up.

[Aeradalia]

when was the last time you had one?

It's been nearly 6 months since I've had sex... oral or otherwise.

But that's all gonna change tomorrow... because he'll be driving into town from Dallas tomorrow... whoo hoo!

I have a whole month... I'm giddy with anticipation...

[IndiReloaded]

Actually, I'm quite good in bed, but find it to be an overrated activity. To paraphrase Seneca, it is simply the friction of two members followed by an ejaculation.

LOL. That's like saying eating is merely a change in the storage location of a fixed form of energy. Tell that to an epicure.

Anything can be trivialized. Or made into something more than what it actually is.

[misombra]

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this guy says that oral sex hasn't been approved by jesus.

[bluesummer]

Oh, that's crap (sorry, but it is). There's tons of stuff to do other than sex. If you can't be more imaginative than fornicating with your finance, then your relationship is truly jeopardized.

I usually am most enamoured with a woman when I am just physically close to her and doing things: traveling, eating, talking, sunning myself, laughing. She's my companion, my friend. Yes, a romantic partner is part of it, but to say that is the best part is just...crap.

Yeah, well everyone is good in bed when they are with someone who wants to be with them and vice versa...that, again, is a non-objective measure of anything. That is why everything else--non-sexual aspects--are so important...

Just copulating and counting the orgasm (inevitable for a guy) as a sign of goodness, happiness, etc. is so inaccurate.

As for being alone...there's plenty to do besides work. You know, maintaining a home or working out or just reading and learning... things of that nature...improving oneself and one's life...if you can't do that, then how could you possibly be happy with another person...or for that matter, how could they possibly be happy with you?

This useless blather falls under the category of common knowledge. I didn't bother to write this all out, because it's base elements of a good relationship. I have an excellent friendship with my fiance outside of sex. Duh......why else would we be getting married? You think I'm marrying him because he's good in bed? I never said it was the BEST part of a relationship, either. Jesus christ.

No offense, but relationship advice from you of all people here seems a little hypocritical. You're trying to preach the virtues of being alone because you're a chronic bachelor and you need to feel okay about it somehow. Can't deny it CAM, you've been on here with the same issue forever. "I'm happy being a bachelor, but why can't I meet someone?"

As for your comment about people being good in bed just because they're in love.....sorry, no. I've been with people and loved them and thought they sucked in bed. I'm sorry, but it IS an important part of the relationship (note: I DID NOT say the MOST important). When you don't have that sexual chemistry, you're missing out on an important intimate connection. Sex isn't just about ****ing.