Is oral sex really THAT important????

[bluesummer]

Actually, I'm quite good in bed, but find it to be an overrated activity. To paraphrase Seneca, it is simply the friction of two members followed by an ejaculation.

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Thank you for proving to me what a twisted view you have on sex. You fail to see the connection between two people who love each other and enjoy being intimate. Maybe it's something you've never experienced, and really, that's too bad.

I'm not a huge fan. In terms of fellatio, I don't like a woman to do that to me. I think it is demeaning to women. I sense that women who like doing it to guys are often into it for reasons of sexual power or because they emulate porn starlets (or both).

You know what, I think your QUOTE is demeaning to women. So a woman who enjoys pleasuring her man is either attempting to be domineering or a whore? Just....wow. You need to really think about that statement.

What then, is your opinion of men who go down on women? I can only imagine.

[DelicateRose88]

I'm confused and intrigued - can i ask why u don't want it anymore if it feels amazing and it made u cum?

Because I was uncomfortable. Just because I was uncomfortable doesn't mean my body can't react. The first time I had sex I was SO uncomfortable, doesn't mean it didn't feel good.

[Gribble]

I will agree that sex is overrated. My best orgasms by far were achieved all by my lonesome. Not even the busiest little slattern in all of Texas can give a better tug job.

There's more to it than the orgasm, though. For some people it's a serious bonding experience. For me it's all a big joke. For some reason I'm always on the verge of tumbling out of bed or my legs are so wrapped in the sheets I have to struggle to free myself. Goofy stuff happens. We laugh and joke and play. It's so much more than uglies rubbing together.

This trivialization of sex that's become so popular is, in my humble opinion, a social disease. Sex isn't trivial. It is a key factor in a healthy adult relationship. Yeah, there's more to it than sex. But sex is damn important. Important enough that if needs aren't being met in bed and compromises can't be made people should seriously consider looking elsewhere and they should not feel ashamed for doing so.

[CAM]

LOL. That's like saying eating is merely a change in the storage location of a fixed form of energy. Tell that to an epicure.

Anything can be trivialized. Or made into something more than what it actually is.

Seneca was a Stoic. He wouldn't have anything to say to an Epicurean.

[CAM]

well i happened to get my degree in the subject that you're dissing on.

I didn't "diss" on the subject. The subject was just a place-holder. I could have left a big blank spot and it would have filled the same purpose.

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Cam

[CAM]

This useless blather falls under the category of common knowledge. I didn't bother to write this all out, because it's base elements of a good relationship. I have an excellent friendship with my fiance outside of sex. Duh......why else would we be getting married? You think I'm marrying him because he's good in bed? I never said it was the BEST part of a relationship, either. Jesus christ.

No offense, but relationship advice from you of all people here seems a little hypocritical. You're trying to preach the virtues of being alone because you're a chronic bachelor and you need to feel okay about it somehow. Can't deny it CAM, you've been on here with the same issue forever. "I'm happy being a bachelor, but why can't I meet someone?"

As for your comment about people being good in bed just because they're in love.....sorry, no. I've been with people and loved them and thought they sucked in bed. I'm sorry, but it IS an important part of the relationship (note: I DID NOT say the MOST important). When you don't have that sexual chemistry, you're missing out on an important intimate connection. Sex isn't just about ****ing.

You are absolutely correct. I have nothing to offer to this site.

I fully admit to not understanding women and having increasingly less interest in understanding them as female beings.

I get along fine with women as colleagues because in that role, we are operating solely as asexual administrative beings. Ask me to collaborate with you on a work-project and I'll gladly oblige. Ask me for a drink after work or over to a BBQ at your home, and I'll decline.

In the years on this site, I have increasingly become less interested in establishing a relationship and wonder less why I can't meet a woman. It becomes an irrelevancy at my age. My sole role is to live out my own existence.

Therefore, you are right: what would I have to add to a site called "Love Forum" when there is no love in my heart?

[CAM]

This useless blather falls under the category of common knowledge. I didn't bother to write this all out, because it's base elements of a good relationship. I have an excellent friendship with my fiance outside of sex. Duh......why else would we be getting married? You think I'm marrying him because he's good in bed? I never said it was the BEST part of a relationship, either. Jesus christ.

No offense, but relationship advice from you of all people here seems a little hypocritical. You're trying to preach the virtues of being alone because you're a chronic bachelor and you need to feel okay about it somehow. Can't deny it CAM, you've been on here with the same issue forever. "I'm happy being a bachelor, but why can't I meet someone?"

As for your comment about people being good in bed just because they're in love.....sorry, no. I've been with people and loved them and thought they sucked in bed. I'm sorry, but it IS an important part of the relationship (note: I DID NOT say the MOST important). When you don't have that sexual chemistry, you're missing out on an important intimate connection. Sex isn't just about ****ing.

This useless blather falls under the category of common knowledge. I didn't bother to write this all out, because it's base elements of a good relationship. I have an excellent friendship with my fiance outside of sex. Duh......why else would we be getting married? You think I'm marrying him because he's good in bed? I never said it was the BEST part of a relationship, either. Jesus christ.

No offense, but relationship advice from you of all people here seems a little hypocritical. You're trying to preach the virtues of being alone because you're a chronic bachelor and you need to feel okay about it somehow. Can't deny it CAM, you've been on here with the same issue forever. "I'm happy being a bachelor, but why can't I meet someone?"

As for your comment about people being good in bed just because they're in love.....sorry, no. I've been with people and loved them and thought they sucked in bed. I'm sorry, but it IS an important part of the relationship (note: I DID NOT say the MOST important). When you don't have that sexual chemistry, you're missing out on an important intimate connection. Sex isn't just about ****ing.

You are absolutely correct. I have nothing to offer to this site.

I fully admit to not understanding women and having increasingly less interest in understanding them as female beings.

I get along fine with women as colleagues because in that role, we are operating solely as asexual administrative beings. Ask me to collaborate with you on a work-project and I'll gladly oblige. Ask me for a drink after work or over to a BBQ at your home, and I'll decline.

In the years on this site, I have increasingly become less interested in establishing a relationship and wonder less why I can't meet a woman. It becomes an irrelevancy at my age. My sole role is to live out my own existence.

Therefore, you are right: what would I have to add to a site called "Love Forum" when there is no love in my heart?

[Aeradalia]

I think people become far too engrossed with the concept of romantic long-term love... they forget there are other forms of love that add significance to our lives and passion to our motivations.

In another post, there are those who pity Gribble because he's thrilled more by the 'chase' than the eventual relationship. As though this were to be a 'bad thing.'

As much as I like the idea of being 'in love' I find I am most happiest when I am off moving mountains --- toiling away at some mission of seemingly great importance and being cheered along. Luckily, I find both in the current relationship I'm in. However, if I had to choose to give up one or the other... I know I would miss the challenges and triumphs more than I would romantic love... or even companionship.

We spend so much more of our lives searching for this 'love' that it's not surprising when so many of us fall in love with the searching... or even the struggle to maintain love once we do find it... and less with the experience of this romantic long-term love.

I believe it is unfair to make it seem that life is meaningless without a mate. Perhaps at worst, it's not as good as it could be --- who really knows?--- but it's far from hollow.

To be quite honest... it not for the exception of this current relationship, I would've had to admit that life was more enjoyable when I wasn't in a relationship.

[littleme]

Delicate rose: you are so lucky that you can cum even when ur uncomfortable - I can be 100% comfortable during sex, especially with my present partner who does everything I want and who i will do anything for, i can be screaming with pleasure and moaning with delight for a really long time, and yet still not actually climax, i wonder why this is... on my own all i need to do is squeeze my legs together - with or without a pillow - and i'm done in 30secs! anyone else have this problem? should i start a new thread on this one?

Cam: thought this was an intimate love forum not a philosphy forum? only kidding, i get that ur in search of the perfect love as we all are, i have a friend like u but u know sex is very important and it is of supreme importance to make your woman satisfied in bed, this way if ur compatible then things run smoothly, otherwise bad feelings set in even when u truly love each other, just as bluesummer says, i have experienced that too and it has been most heartbreaking.

[elfen31]

You're gonna HAVE to talk to him about it especially if it's something he needs to have done to be aroused.....I personally LOVE it - receiving and giving

[Frasbee]

You're gonna HAVE to talk to him about it especially if it's something he needs to have done to be aroused.....I personally LOVE it - receiving and giving

Ew, you're such a slut.

[Gribble]

You're gonna HAVE to talk to him about it especially if it's something he needs to have done to be aroused.....I personally LOVE it - receiving and giving

Yeah. That's disgusting. Women shouldn't enjoy sex.

[Rollerderby]

It depends on how well he takes care of himself overall. If you know he takes care of himself, who cares? I've dumped guys who refuse oral. It's a turn off to me if they are turned off by my pussy. Besides, forcing someone to do something they don't like to do usually means it sucks. People who are into it are the best at it.

For some it's anal, for some it's no sex before marriage. You gotta be on the same page.

[misombra]

this thread is making me horny.

[lana_bear]

Imagine this: you're on a date with a guy who you've been dating or are in a relationship with (which ever). The night is ending and you're in one or the others bed room and you both know where its going. He starts hinting at wanting a little foreplay and you're thinking "I got up to pee during that movie, dinner, w/e" and now he's going to be licking up my pee?! YUCK. You don't want to ruin the moment with "let me freshen up" because that would mean taking a shower to make sure you're totally clean or your mind will be on how disgusting what he's about to get in his mouth is and not on how "good" its supposedly feels.

*he* wouldnt care. *YOU* shouldnt!!!

relax, calm down! its just oral, try it out at least once!

jesus!