Is oral sex really THAT important????

[DelicateRose88]

So ok, this is probably a really stupid and obvious question but just how important can oral sex really be for a guy when it comes to staying in a relationship with a girl?

I used to date a guy who would always beg me to let him eat me out or give him head but the thing is I kind of find penises. . .weird looking and I don't really like the idea of him putting his face that close to my vage.

Imagine this: you're on a date with a guy who you've been dating or are in a relationship with (which ever). The night is ending and you're in one or the others bed room and you both know where its going. He starts hinting at wanting a little foreplay and you're thinking "I got up to pee during that movie, dinner, w/e" and now he's going to be licking up my pee?! YUCK. You don't want to ruin the moment with "let me freshen up" because that would mean taking a shower to make sure you're totally clean or your mind will be on how disgusting what he's about to get in his mouth is and not on how "good" its supposedly feels.

As for not wanting to give head, like I said. . .penises are just weird looking. You don't have to look at it when its inside you. I could probably get over that and do it for a guy who convinced me to but the whole eating me out thing just really grosses me out. What the hell do I do???

[Mishanya]

What the hell do I do???

Either talk it out with him and reach some type of a compromise or find someone who is not into it. These are your options.

[DelicateRose88]

I should have ended with the question! Lol.

Just how much risk am I taking by telling a guy I'm not into any kind of oral sex? Do I assume that means relationship will pretty much end?

[Mishanya]

I should have ended with the question! Lol.

Just how much risk am I taking by telling a guy I'm not into any kind of oral sex? Do I assume that means relationship will pretty much end?

It's hard to say how much risk you are taking because all guys are different. To some it's a deal breaker for others it's less important. I don't see why there shouldn't be some kind of compromise worked out of it. Maybe you can present some other alternatives to oral that the two of you could do instead. Ultimately if it's a deal breaker for him (and the opposite for you) then you'll just have to accept it and move on. Yeh, it's not easy.

[amack]

It will end if he's not into you enough.

Some things can be overlooked in relationships if the relationship is a great one. Other times one "small" thing can ruin it. But in my opinion, that type of relationship isn't worthy of saving.

And don't give in just to save your relationship! Too many girls make that mistake & it makes for toxic relationships.

[vashti]

I don't blame you about the cleanliness part. I mean, males don't even wipe that puppy off after urinating! No way would I put my mouth there!

I don't engage in oral sex unless freshly showered, and I don't see why you couldn't just tell him you don't either.

Unless of course, the issue really is more a matter of not liking oral sex, period. If that is the case, you will have to tell him, or you could try closing your eyes.

[ecojeanne]

i agree with vash, cleanliness is an issue worth discussing.

just pretend its the most delicious lollipop while closing your eyes, worked for me

[Gribble]

For some it is. Oral is one of those things that's gross at first but grows on you with time.

[littleme]

Question to Delicate Rose: Does this fella give you screaming orgasms on a regular basis? My guess is no? I've been doing a little research recently. Check out David Shade and Carlos Xuma on google, you will quickly find their various products (free) aimed at boys on how to make girls CUM CUM CUM!! It's an eye-opener for girls and has certainly put me at ease. I recently had problems with my boyfriend's cock too but having used these guidances to teach and enlighten my boyfriend, who I love in every way, this has changed the situation dramatically and the only way is up from here. I guarantee babe if you help your boyfriend to give you wild screaming orgasms you will not give a **** where he puts his cock and when he licks you out the last thing on your mind (and on your pussy) will be pee, as it will be smothered with your gorgeous sexy juices and you will be writhing with pleasure.

[Gigabitch]

Misombra gets away with never going south and her bf adores her.

[DelicateRose88]

And don't give in just to save your relationship! Too many girls make that mistake & it makes for toxic relationships.

That's an interesting point in general, not just to my oral sex issue. Could you elaborate some? Just wanting to pick your brain a bit here.

[kjb]

My ex boyfriends sister actually went on the Dr Phil show with her husband to discuss how much she hated giving oral sex. It was the episode with Kim cattrall when she had a book deal coming out a few years back. Dr. Phil basically said get over it and if she didnt like it there were other things they could do. It was all in good humor. But Basically you will find someone who is ok with doing whatever your comfortable its a personal choice. Who knows? with some practice you might like it though. Its just about being comfortable with your body.

[coleburns]

hello rose. new here. it's so nice and satisfying. specially when both decide not to go all the way. it's just a part of previlege for both parties. for me i do it because i like it and not that i feel obliged and that i know she'll enjoy it too.

[Gribble]

If he breaks up over this, he wasn't worth your time anyways.

I disagree with this general sentiment. Some guys really enjoy getting head. A relationship isn't just about holding hands and regurgitating the insipid bullcrap you gleaned from a romantic flick. It's also about attraction and sex. If a guy's needs aren't being met, they aren't being met. He shouldn't feel ashamed for looking elsewhere in that case.

[Spicy]

Talk to him about it, life is too short to feel guilted in to doing something you hate.

To me the worse thing would be receiving or giving pity/guilt sex whether oral or other. If it's not something you enjoy doing....don't do it.