How much PDA is too much?

[elfen31]

PDA stands for Public Displays of Affection....for those who don't know....ok...my bf and I went to the doctor's office and while waiting he takes my hand in his and proceeds to suck on my fingers. Now don't get me wrong .... in private....this is bloody amazing...in public especially at the doctor's office with a whole bunch of other ppl staring at you....nuh uh....I was of course trying to kinda tell him in as friendly a way as possible that he should stop, but every chance he got he did it.....he would also try to fondle my breasts at the side of my clothing, and if I'm standing in front of him, he basically had his hands rubbing my nipples thru my clothing.

And y'all please don't tell me that "oh girls should be grateful for that kind of attention" because while I don't mind a little cuddling or a kiss or two in public...there's a time and a place for everything and that kind of pda is just too much imo.

[amack]

Um, yeah, that's inappropriate in my book.

He also sounds like an immature jerk. He should have respected you enough to stop when you told him to.

He doesn't sound like a winner in my book.

[vashti]

In a doctor's office in front of people? Yeah - he totally disrespected you publicly and made you look like a whore.

Get rid of him.

For the record, I don't think there is anything wrong with a quick smooch or holding hands in public, but if you wouldn't do it in front of your grandma, no one else wants to see it, either.

[PussyCatDoll]

ewww tell him to suck on em at home

[Rollerderby]

I don't think anyone in their right mind would tell you that you should be grateful for that kind of attention in public.

I would have been extremely uncomfortable. That is totally disrespectful. Maybe he has some kind of public sex fantasy? Even so, if you said to stop he should have listened. This is something worth bringing up again until he gets the message, or just ditch him.

[elfen31]

Thank you ever so much guys.....I plan to definitely talk to him about it tomorrow when I see him......and if he doesn't change, yeah I think he might need to go. I mean what if he comes to meet my family and is doing that kind of crap? My mom would be mortified!

[Rollerderby]

How long have you been dating this guy? And also, if you don't mind my asking, how old are you both?

[jtrias2002]

For me PDA has limitation I mean it's ok just a kiss but fondles my breast in public, OMG he has no respect!

[Yggdrasil]

I would say it becomes inappropriate the moment it becomes sexual touching.

I'd still be ok with french kissing in public, as long as they don't start rubbing bodies.

What happend at the doctor’s office was totally inappropriate and disrespectful.

[lesa]

I hate PDA (for myself). I don't really watch others. I noticed people will smile if you are in the car so I will forgive some PDA in the vehicle.

[elfen31]

How long have you been dating this guy? And also, if you don't mind my asking, how old are you both?

I'm 32 and he's 31, and we've been dating for about a month...approximately.

[lesa]

I'm 32 and he's 31, and we've been dating for about a month...approximately.

Dating for a month and he is being "free" with himself? That means there is much more to come. Here is an example of "what are you willing to tolerate" in a partner.

[doppelgaenger]

It's not inappropriate if no one else sees it

[elfen31]

It's not inappropriate if no one else sees it

OMG!!!

[ed604]

It's not inappropriate if no one else sees it

Doppelgaenger is right, the feeling is more exciting knowing there is ppl around and those ppl are unaware of it. However, in your situation that is wrong. It's kinda embarassing for both of you, especially you. For me, acceptable pda is holding hands, kissing, cuddling really close, but no touching ass or breasts. Maybe only once in a while.