Originally Posted by purge_searches
as i have not yet had sex
hehe, i am worried that when i will, i will come too early....how would i stop this from happening so early???
Yes, the very first time you slide into a girl's vagina you will probably come sooner than you intend. Probably 90% or more of all guys do.
Another 5% or so lose their erections and can't complete the f***k.
That's one reason you need to plan the event when you have a lot of time. Half a day at least; overnight is better and a whole day or weekend is better still. Since you expect this to happen, it won't bother you. Since your partner knows you're a virgin, she'll expect it and it won't bother her.
As your contractions subside, continue to make love! Caress and fondle her, do some deep kissing, finger her mound and clit. It's a special, intimate sensation to feel yourself go soft inside a girl you've just spilled into, but (especially if you're under 25 or so) you may well remain hard. Yes, it'll be easier if SHE takes an active role in resuming the foreplay by initiating the kisses, placing your hand where she's sensitive, etc. and this goes smoother if she's on top. In about 10 - 15 minutes you'll be ready to go again, the stroking will start, you'll last MUCH longer and hopefully experience the feeling of her vagina contracting around your cock as she orgasms.
If you ever again want your partner to eagerly spread her thighs and engulf your man-parts with her woman-parts, you WILL continue the stimulation after you've come the first time!
Now, I started by saying 90% of virgin guys come too quick - 5% go soft - what about the other 5%? They're the ones who have skilled, caring partners who are comfortable with their own sexuality and familiar with the virgin guy's orgasmic response. They've spent weeks, maybe months, together exploring and stimulating each others' bodies with hands, mouths and tongues. She knows that when the time comes, probably the most considerate thing she can do is quickly bring the guy to climax with her hands or mouth. The guy will expect this and co-operate, not fight it. Then - with the "edge" taken off his horniness - they will procede to make love. There will be enough time to get her ready while he recharges, and once inside he'll last longer. They'll understand that it's probably better to put him on his back and have her climb on top. Most guys last longer on their backs, and she'll be better able to guide him in (it can be painful, and kill the arousal, if he expends too much effort trying to find the opening, right angle, etc.).
I hope your partner knows these things. Maybe you've already discussed it with her, or directed her to some good web sites about first-time sex, or shown this post to her. She can do these things for you even if she's also a virgin. In fact, she should ESPECIALLY do these things if she's a virgin - they're things to help herself enjoy the event, too.
I hope it goes well for both of you!
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