Something to consider for the GUYS - Love Forum

#1 (**permalink**) 07-11-04, 06:08 PM

One of the most annoying things when having sex is a guy asking (again and again) if I'm coming ... or why not ... or when.

It can destroy the whole atmosphere. Feels like a lot of pressure. I really enjoy sex (also without orgasm) - at least up to that question. How can I relax when somebody keeps on asking such question?

Would be interesting to hear what others have to say. Do you agree?

blue · #2 (**permalink**) 07-11-04, 09:25 PM

yes i so totally agree it just becomes annoying for me, but i think that if you can communicate w/ your partner and let him know that youare not ablw to relax when he keeps asking you then at least he knows now not to do that
now if he wants to tell me baby im going to ****ing cum now that utterly turns me on and i will come verry soon after cuz thats just so hot!

abercromqt20 · #3 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 02:04 AM

oh oh, i dated a guy totally like this guy about 3 years ago. he was the only guy i ever dated that was younger than me. he was 17 and super inexperienced. that's all he kept asking during sex. and even after sex he was all like "did i get you off???" i was always super nice about but it gets old REAL quick. so basically that relationship didn't last long at all.

Illusional · #4 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 02:18 AM

haha then you're missing the whole point of sex. raverboy

jb5k1 · #5 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 02:25 AM

I never ask that. My gf is jsut like omg you get me off so much I love it

abercromqt20 · #6 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 02:39 AM

man i'm loud in bed. my bf KNOWS when he has gotten me off. no need to ask for an update every 30 seconds.

blue · #7 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 02:41 AM

yeah im loud too hmmm

PoetsRevenge84 · #8 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 08:41 AM

Maybe you should try telling him how you feel. Explain to him that he is ruining it for you. The key to good sex is communication. If you can't even tell each other simple things, then maybe you should take a step back and reexamine the relationship as well as yourself. Just try telling him. If he cares at all about your pleasure, he'll understand completely.

Illusional · #9 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 09:47 AM

haha when my ex wouldn't give me head anymore, but she still wanted me to eat her out, i did a little test. i never gave eat her out for a week and she noticed the change. tell him how you feel and things will change.

raverboy