Food for thought... (3-somes)

[blue]

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Originally Posted by nomas

Aw, come on, blue...just once more...For me.. Pleeeese??? Heh, heh..j/k.

Freds

hey cuttie i cant not even for one more cuz i dont want to share ever again i lernt my lesson

[nomas]

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Originally Posted by nomas

Raver..I can't see anyone's signatures or avatars...why?? Did I mess with my settings and mess it up or something? I'll look into that, but can you think of another reason?

See..this is where we needed Billy...but I guess there may be other computer geeks that can help.

Anybody?

I'll check out my personal settings in the mean time.

Freddie

Yep, it was in my own settings...I can see everything now.

Freds

[nomas]

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Originally Posted by blue

hey cuttie i cant not even for one more cuz i dont want to share ever again i lernt my lesson

Damnit! That's just my luck! I was going to set you up with Raver and Blake, too..oh, well, your loss, sisterrrr...ha ha..

Freds

[blue]

dam i wasnt thinking with guys no way i would ever do that! girls yes well no cuz i lert my lesson

[abercromqt20]

i would so do it with three girls. b/c it would be purely sexual then and wouldn't interfere with a relationship. man, if we were all single and drunk enough...i could def. see that happening with me and my 2 best friends!

[misombra]

ah that's how my threesome happened! a bottle of wine, some strawberries and whipped cream. it was over. funny story, i was dating this guy who didn't want to be serious with me and just wanted to be sex friends. he found out i had a threesome (without him) and he went crazy! he was so upset and never talked to me again. he started going around telling people what a terrible person i am, calling me a whore. i thought it was absolutely hilarious. the moral of the story? if you're just using a girl for friend sex, don't be surprised if she goes out and has threesomes sin ti!!!

[nomas]

Gender roles again...

I think most straight guys..the VAST majority could never get drunk enough to have sexcapades with their buddies. It just doesn't happen. I think no matter what you would always be too concious of the potential homosexual stamp you'd be forever branding yourself and even in this so-called liberated society it's not the same as when there's girl-on-girl action....¿que no?

Freds

[misombra]

i agree. our society is infested with gender roles.

[unMorph]

I definately concur with this. As a guy, who tries to be open-minded, the fear of being a 'fag' is too intense. Its worse than my fear of heights! If I had a choice between having sex with a man and jumping off a cliff to my death...the cliff would win. Isn't that just silly?
However, one of the nice things about being a guy is...we can have all the female sexual partners we like! They call us 'studs' when we have a new girl every day. A girl who tries that is called a 'slut'. Whats up with that?!?

Err...to make this post semi-on-topic...I'd have a threesome. Either with two girls or a guy and a girl. Jealousy is a silly concept that should be beaten out of people forcibly if necessary. Any time I start to feel jealous, I will force myself to STOP and think about it in a different way. If my gf talks about a hot guy she saw, thats alright, because she came home with ME. And, if its really important to her, why not let her have some fun...even if its without me. Be safe, sane, and consensual...and come home when you're finished playing. Thats all I ask.

[blue]

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Originally Posted by abercromqt20

i would so do it with three girls. b/c it would be purely sexual then and wouldn't interfere with a relationship. man, if we were all single and drunk enough...i could def. see that happening with me and my 2 best friends!

yes i agree with you here though. my best friend and i did it once...it was bound to happen one day and it did. sober yes and drunk definatley

[blue]

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Originally Posted by unMorph

Err...to make this post semi-on-topic...I'd have a threesome. Either with two girls or a guy and a girl. Jealousy is a silly concept that should be beaten out of people forcibly if necessary. Any time I start to feel jealous, I will force myself to STOP and think about it in a different way. If my gf talks about a hot guy she saw, thats alright, because she came home with ME. And, if its really important to her, why not let her have some fun...even if its without me. Be safe, sane, and consensual...and come home when you're finished playing. Thats all I ask.

wow you are definatley open i could not do that!!!! how do you do that?

[unMorph]

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Originally Posted by blue

wow you are definatley open i could not do that!!!! how do you do that?

Its really just a lot of practice. My hypnotherapy training tells me that feeling jealous is a learned response. Its a habit! Like smoking and gambling (and masturbation?)! My common sense tells me that feeling jealous only makes matters worse.
Think of it like this. Jealousy is a self-fulfilling prophecy. The more jealous you become, the more upset you become and the more you push your partner away. Nobody likes getting yelled at, especially when they HAVEN'T DONE ANYTHING! So, jealousy is a pointless response.
Now, everytime you notice yourself feel jealous, allow yourself to experience it and then replace it with something better. Remember a time when your partner did something absolutely wonderful for you? Take the time to re-live that moment. They love you. They CHOSE you. They chose you for a REASON. They've shared so much with you already because they WANT this relationship. Do you think some passerby can match all that?
Now, if you are asking how I can be polyamorous and allow my partner to have sex with other people, then I'll tell you that its very simple. Sex is not the center of the relationship. We focus on sharing ourselves with each other and supporting each other emotionally. Sex can be VERY emotional (it does not need to be, however. I call emotion laden sex 'enchanted sex' because sex is a physical act while emotions are ethereal, magickal), so of course we have sex together. Our relationship is precious to both of us because what we have, an intense emotional connection, can not be found on the street. It takes YEARS to build. How many friendships even reach that level? One or two in your lifetime? Good (physical) sex can be found anywhere...in a bar, a grocery store, your church or place of worship even! No one retaining even a sliver of sanity would give up something so RARE for something so common. Do I ever worry about another guy being better in bed? Not for a moment, because thats not why she's with me.

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I never had a threesome but would consider it. I guess you cannot plan such thing. If the situation comes up one day, why not. When you are in the right mood and comfortable with everybody involved ... However, it should happen spontaneously. At least I would give it a go once.

Actually, I wouldn't mind if the situation came up one day ;-)

Just a bit curious.