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manonfire · #1 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 06:40 AM

CRAP! omg... me and my girl havnt even really had sex, but she thinks she might be pregnant. WTF??? i mean yesterday while we were sucking each other i tried to put it in for a little bit.. but only like 1 inch got in before she pulled away. omg. i didnt even come in her, but she claims that a girl can still get pregnant even if the guy doesnt come INSIDE her, but comes and then puts it inside her. i came while she was suckign me but... she cleaned most of that up for me. She says shes a day late for her "scheduled" period, but that was the scheduled period from last month, which she went crazy in because of stress. so the real one according to the whole schedule is in 2 weeks... so i gotta wait then and then go out and get her a test, cause even if she does have her period, i read soemwhere you can still be pregnant even if you get yoru period (rarely).

what do you guys think.. do you think i got here pregnant?? omfg. AHHH WE DIDNT EVEN HAVE SEX!!!! it was only in for like 3 seconds!!!! and only an inch deep!!!

is it true that a girl can still get pregnant even if the guy comes before putting it in? sigh, im 99% sure shes not pregnant, but just thinking of that 1% is driving me crazy. OMG what will we do if shes pregnant!!!!

jane · #2 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 06:48 AM

ok.. first of all.. thats not true, well... its kinda true. Sperm can live outside the body up to 72 hours with a dying. Has she showered? .. anyway.
Calm down. I wouldnt worry about it yet. she has two weeks until her scheduled period? Give me some more info...

1. When was her last period?
2. Did you have cum on your penis when you were "one inch in" ?
3. Were you guys having unprotected sex? and WHY???

sleepy · #3 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 06:55 AM

o, wow, you poor guy! ok, just chill for a sec. it's *really* unlikely your girl is pregnant.

consider: if if there was a amount of pre-cum there, the chances that it travelled and fertilized are miniscule.

consider: there are like 40 reasons a girl can go off her men. schedule - it's way more likely, logically, that she is late for other reasons. stress can do it, for sure. too much vitamin a can even do it.

in a couple of days, get a pregnancy test. from now on, use condoms.

but, let's say, worst case/totally unlikely scenario, she's pregnant. you 1) make sure it's yours 2) talk about all your options; talk to a planned parenthood person or your religious leader about what to do. it's going to be okay.

but that is so unlikely i'm reluctant to even go there - good luck :) support your girl; she is more worried than you are. take her out to dinner, don't have sex, tell her it's going to be fine. she is likely being illogical and dramatic; be kind, ok?

PoetsRevenge84 · #4 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 07:02 AM

Don't be so sure about anything right now. Chances are, she probably isn't pregnant, but there is still a good chance that she could be. You don't have to cum inside of a girl to get her pregnant. Your pre-cum (that clearish liquid that comes out before you actually cum) contains sperm. If you inserted your penis into her vagina without protection, there is always a chance of pregnancy. Since you came before actually inserting into her, there is a risk. You could have still had sperm on your penis when it went in whether she licked most of it off or not.

(And by the way, you two had sexual intercourse if your penis was in her vagina. Personally you may not want to count it as real sex, but technically speaking, you did. Plain and simple)

The fact that her "scheduled" period is late is no cause for concern yet. I am assuming you guys are young and she hasn't really figured everything out yet. Just because she was late last month doesn't mean that she will remain on her old schedule. She will have adopted a new schedule due to the extra time it took her to get it last month. Considering how stressed you guys are, I wouldn't be surprised if she is late again this month as well (when the REAL time comes for her to get it). I was late this month due to stress as well as the weather change. It happens all the time to women. No woman is a clock. Our bodies don't work in time with the calendar. I would suggest you two consider buying a test only after she is late for over a week (again, of the REAL time she is supposed to get it).

As for right now, get yourself some condoms for future sexual encounters. You don't want to have unprotected sex again. It's a REALLY bad idea. Not only are you risking pregnancy (which you are now being forced to consider) you are risking sexually transmitted disease (of which some have no cure) and HIV/AIDS. You do not want to die from sex. It's not worth it to do things without protection. If she was smart, she'd get herself on birth control once this mess is all cleared up.

In my opinion, you two are probably too young to be having sex. It is obvious that the two of you are inexperienced and have little knowledge on the subject. Why don't you two get yourselves on some internet sites with information and make sure you know the facts before you start doing anything you may regret. Always do your research before participating in any sexual activity. It will save you from a lot of problems later on down the road. Good luck and keep us posted on what happens.

misombra · #5 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 07:12 AM

it's not uncommon for a girl to be late. it's not even uncommon to skip a period completely. chill out. i'm willing to bet she's just playing the "i'm a day late and i'm preggo" game. that happens when you're young.

manonfire · #6 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 12:10 PM

sigh, this is SO God teachin me a lesson about foolin around with girls... yah im def gonna use condoms now... heard theyre only like 80% effective or sumin like that.

PoetsRevenge84 · #7 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by manonfire

sigh, this is SO God teachin me a lesson about foolin around with girls... yah im def gonna use condoms now... heard theyre only like 80% effective or sumin like that.

More than that if you use them right. Read the instructions since it seems you don't know too much about all of this (that wasn't meant to be mean!). Just take your time and read up on things before you do anything. The chance for error decreases when you are knowledgeable. It's not being dorky, it's being smart. With things like this, you never want to learn from your mistakes. You want to do it right to begin with. GL

Frebbiezadyke · #8 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 12:23 PM

shes becouse paranoude she is scared tell her to shut up and get a clue

PoetsRevenge84 · #9 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 12:31 PM

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Originally Posted by misombra

it's not uncommon for a girl to be late. it's not even uncommon to skip a period completely. chill out. i'm willing to bet she's just playing the "i'm a day late and i'm preggo" game. that happens when you're young.

Just to clarify, none of this is a game. Just because she is saying she thinks she might be pregnant doesn't mean she is or wants to play games. Do you really think she wants to be scared like this? I highly doubt it.
It's SO different for men because they have the option of walking away. For a woman, it's life altering no matter what choice you make. She is just looking for a little love and support during a rough time. There may be chicks out there who play games like that, but that's just plain sick and they need to get help. Most women aren't playing games when they say they may be pregnant.

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Men have it way too easy. There should be laws to stop men from walking out on girls when they get pregnant. They should be forced to play a role in some way or another. You both had the sex so you should both have to take responsibility. Women get stuck with it because they have to carry the kid. If it were the other way around, you would be sure that there would be a law saying the mother has to take a role. We live in a patriarchal society where men think they rule. One of these days, we'll get a woman in office and the world will be a different and better place. Getting back to "if the man was the one who got pregnant..." Guarenteed most women wouldn't go running in the other direction if they got the news that there was a chance that their S.O. was pregnant. Sorry guys, but most of you are weak when it comes to emotions and things that really matter. There are plenty of guys out there who would be decent enough to at least stick by their girl if, god forbid, she got pregnant but they are few and far between these days. It disgusts me. Men need to grow up. Most of you are a bunch of little boys still. Again, I am speaking to the masses, not specific people. There are men out there who actually are men. I am trying not to be too general. Wouldn't want to hurt anyones feelings... uh oh guys! Feelings! Ruuun! lol

PoetsRevenge84 · #10 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 12:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Frebbiezadyke

shes becouse paranoude she is scared tell her to shut up and get a clue

I didn't understand you at all. Try speaking english. We might understand you a little better.

sleepy · #11 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 12:43 PM

97%, luv. use condoms. always.

manonfire · #12 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 01:19 PM

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Originally Posted by PoetsRevenge84

Men have it way too easy. There should be laws to stop men from walking out on girls when they get pregnant.

if she does.. no way im walking out on her... sigh. so much trouble... GRR this was supposed to be a nice easy physical relationship too.. without much deep feelings, without complications. sigh, that really backfired on me.

PoetsRevenge84 · #13 (**permalink**) 12-11-04, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by manonfire

if she does.. no way im walking out on her... sigh. so much trouble... GRR this was supposed to be a nice easy physical relationship too.. without much deep feelings, without complications. sigh, that really backfired on me.

Yeah. Walking out makes you look weak. Stick by her through it. Work things out as you go. Don't freak out yet though. There is no need to stress until you know for sure that she's pregnant. Just relax until then.

Frebbiezadyke · #14 (**permalink**) 15-11-04, 04:36 AM

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Originally Posted by PoetsRevenge84

I didn't understand you at all. Try speaking english. We might understand you a little better.

aww so cute of u to poke fun shows whata grand person u are
besides the minor facts that i was speaking nor is this an english forum
i have stated many times before in my past post that i have learning "problems" and my ability to spell it not that good

PoetsRevenge84 · #15 (**permalink**) 15-11-04, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by Frebbiezadyke

aww so cute of u to poke fun shows whata grand person u are
besides the minor facts that i was speaking nor is this an english forum
i have stated many times before in my past post that i have learning "problems" and my ability to spell it not that good

It's called spell check.