Can The Sex Be Too Good? - Love Forum

CBinKC · #1 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 08:21 AM

I gave the guy what he wanted...straight out of Penthouse. We were supposed to get together again. He sent me the following message.

“I don't think I can tonight. I'm worried about becoming addicted to this with you. I was a bit nervous/overwhelmed last night. But I liked it.”

What kind of bull shit is that!?!?!?

Can the sex be too good?

Frasbee · #2 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 08:23 AM

I would take that as a compliment.

CBinKC · #3 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 08:31 AM

If it's a compliment, why am I not getting pounded right now as planned?

sarah-jayne · #4 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 08:48 AM

i think this is his way of taking things slower,maybe he wants you to appreciate more,so that it means more to you

uptownboy · #5 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 09:00 AM

He digs you and hopes that it wasn't as easy for other guys to do the horizontal disco with you. Probably wants you to have his kids.

Lacks confidence, though. Wants to believe his baby(you) is a perfect angel.

Nice Lover Boy · #6 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 09:19 AM

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Originally Posted by CBinKC

If it's a compliment, why am I not getting pounded right now as planned?

Pounded, huh? Yeh, maybe he thinks it's just to easy and want's to add some emotions or feelings in the soup so it can taste better when he takes it, know what I mean? Anyways, do you ever see him around? Is everything cool? Is there anything else you would like to share about?

CBinKC · #7 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 09:46 AM

I'm floored that some of you think he wants to get more emotional/real with me. I don’t know what to make of that. I would like for him to like me that way but the prospect is terrifying.

Besides, he wrote that he is “worried about becoming addicted to this with you.” Not addicted to me but addicted to the fantasy we played.

We don’t see each other around.

And, I’m not easy. We didn’t even have intercourse. Just really strong third base action and a lot of observation. lol And he knows I’m not easy because we’ve been swapping bad date stories for months. I’m just a bit of a freak.

Frasbee · #8 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 09:48 AM

Oh...in that case he's just bein' a wus.

sarah-jayne · #9 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 06:23 PM

no i dont think hes being a wus .By the way he says addicted to this with you maybe hes worried that you dont want this as much as him and he will be left wanting it when you dont.

CBinKC · #10 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 10:18 PM

Sarah, I think you're right. I also think that fear is leading him to mess up a good thing.

I didn't hear from him all night. He could have gone on date with another woman to pull himself away for all I know. Not that there is anything wrong with that; this is new and we have no ties. But, I do hate that he didn’t officially cancel with me and have a good reason. Nothing but that short message was said about canceling.

sarah-jayne · #11 (**permalink**) 15-01-05, 10:33 PM

i heard you said that you didnt have sex ,maybe this was a good thing ,makes it so theres more to look forward to for you both,also takes things slower,just explain to him that if you two just take it slow and both want it evenly theres no chance of being 'addicted' to it.good luck hunxx

CBinKC · #12 (**permalink**) 19-01-05, 11:07 AM

Still no word from him since the lame “I don’t think I can make it” on Friday. Men think they want to a freak in the bed but they are the ones who freak if you cut loose.

CBinKC · #13 (**permalink**) 28-01-05, 10:44 PM

It’s now two weeks later. He IMed me last night.

Him: hello
Me: hello
Him: how have you been?
Me: Good and you?
Him: good

I said nothing else. He logged out after 10 minutes or so. I decided to email him.

What did you expect? Open arms?

You weren’t upfront with me. I know that. I have a good idea what was going on. If you want to come clean and tell me what happen, just tell me.

I was guessing that he was seeing someone else and that’s why he disappeared on me. He wrote back this morning.

LOL...no. I already told you what happened. I was upfront with you. You gave me exactly what I wanted and it freaked me out.

Do you really think my playing out his sexual fantasy freaked him out enough to go silent for two weeks?

I haven’t replied yet. Any suggestions?

D'Artagnan · #14 (**permalink**) 28-01-05, 10:56 PM

you give him what he wants and he runs away? i'll reiterate: WUS.

sarah-jayne · #15 (**permalink**) 28-01-05, 11:12 PM

ok as for his email back beginning with lol,that was quite cruel as your email to him was of a serious nature.But as i said in my other post maybe hes worried about not being able to please you the same way you did him.Living up to expectation so to speak.Tell him you dont want to be messed around and ask him where he wants this to go.