Men and Porn

[Innova]

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Originally Posted by cycletease

But if you are not jacking off, what is the purpose? Why do some men want to look at naked pics constantly? There is no judgement here, I am just trying to understand what purpose it serves in a non-masturbation sense.

Because the male species are VERY visual.

[cycletease]

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Originally Posted by Innova

Because the male species are VERY visual.

Ok, I have heard this before...what does it mean in this context??? I can understand if you are visually stimulated for sex, so seeing hot women gets you ready...but what if you are not having sex or masturbating?

So men are visual, that means they want to see lots of naked ladies for no other reason? What are you thinking about? What does it do for you?

As a woman it is hard to imagine that guys just have to see other women naked. I could understand if it had a relevant purpose, but for no real reason it just seems questionable.

[Laguna]

It's just fun to look at. Women are so beautiful and perfectly shaped. It's just so sexy and we love to see it when we have the free time too. This is why I don't understand why people are gay..I can understand why women would be gay, but why guys? They must be blind when they see women or something.

[BlackRose]

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Originally Posted by Laguna

Why watch porn when I have Rose? lol

haha... nice...

[cycletease]

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Originally Posted by Laguna

It's just fun to look at. Women are so beautiful and perfectly shaped. It's just so sexy and we love to see it when we have the free time too. This is why I don't understand why people are gay..I can understand why women would be gay, but why guys? They must be blind when they see women or something.

I swear you are my boyfriend.

So what does this mean in relation to the woman that you date?

[Lacey]

my bf use to look at porn all the time. instead of kicking his ass, I got even. I started looking at it myself, he didn't like it much. i don't know why i told him it was visual. hehe

[cycletease]

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Originally Posted by Lacey

my bf use to look at porn all the time. instead of kicking his ass, I got even. I started looking at it myself, he didn't like it much. i don't know why i told him it was visual. hehe

This brings up a good point, how do men feel about their women looking?

[Lacey]

i can answer that question, my bf was pretty pissed when the tables were turned.

[cycletease]

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Originally Posted by Lacey

i can answer that question, my bf was pretty pissed when the tables were turned.

Hahaha! Good for you!!!

[Laguna]

Well, when I can't look at my girlfriend cause she isn't here or is away, I look at other women and they make me happy. It's not like a replacement, more like an enhancement.

[theman]

isn't enhancement worst than replacement? I mean it's like saying that the sluts are better than your gf.

[KirstyM]

Look at photos of your gf instead

[Laguna]

You girls will just never understand. Stop trying to, it's not going to work. No guy will be able to explain it.

[cycletease]

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Originally Posted by Laguna

You girls will just never understand. Stop trying to, it's not going to work. No guy will be able to explain it.

No, you really are being helpful. This is the best explanation for this that I have seen and I am not condemning you or wanting to criticize at all.

Women really don't understand, I guess, but that is a lot because it isn't really something your guy will explain to you. It isn't as if any guy has sat down and told me about his relationship with porno...as such we know about it and in some way feel betrayed because he felt he had to look at another.

So rather than jump to a conclusion I am hoping that you guys can give me some info...since you don't have a relationship with me there is no threat like there would be if i asked my guy.

Now:
1) Do you want to have sex with these naked women if they were available?

2) Are you just looking because they are not available..a teaser

3) Are you looking because it is something that you are not seeing at home?

4) Guys look at porn the moment they are alone...this isn't because their girls aren't there to look at...it is because that is when they have a chance. So it is more than a hold over for the real thing...

5) If your girl really takes care of herself and attempts to make herself really attractive to you does this change the amount of porn you are looking at?


Thank you so much for the info, you have really helped me to feel better about it. I don't think men are evil if they look I have just been looking for a better understanding.

[Innova]

Porn, is mainly for when your horny, and nobody is around. It's not to say we don't like our gf for example. You could say, well you could masturbate without it. Well again, men are very visual, and this gives us that visual. It doesn't necc. come down to one exact thing.

Besides that, it gives you ideas, and sometimes you even imagine doing some of that stuff with your GF. Thats why I stress communication to couples that are lacking somewhere.

It's not that we want these women, it's just a visual image that allows us to relieve the moment, if you will.