sex stop sign - Love Forum

neo511 · #1 (**permalink**) 21-10-04, 08:55 AM

my g/f and i used to do it about 1-2 times a week.. and now.. its going on 2 months

.. what gives?? what causes girls to just stop like that? thanks

blue · #2 (**permalink**) 21-10-04, 09:51 AM

how long have you to been together?

neo511 · #3 (**permalink**) 21-10-04, 10:16 AM

10 months or so

neo511 · #4 (**permalink**) 21-10-04, 10:19 AM

and i dont want to assume.. but i cant help but think someone else might in the mix..
a.. we dont have sex anymore
b.. shes never cheery when i call
c.. we barely hold hands and kiss or hug
d.. she just seems all around grumpy
e.. shes not playful anymore..

i dunno what to do

sfalexi · #5 (**permalink**) 21-10-04, 01:35 PM

Sounds like signs that she's not into you anymore. Basically, rule #1 around here on situations like these is "talk to her". State the above, and ask her why. And hope she gives you a straight up answer.

Rod Steele

Denis Ezhov · #6 (**permalink**) 21-10-04, 02:34 PM

In my opinion it is necessary to talk to her! And otherwise your relations only to be worsened! You should understand that to you to like both! The decision only one to talk to her!
Excuse for bad English language!

flame · #7 (**permalink**) 21-10-04, 09:14 PM

Yep.

Im going with the broken record and saying: Talk to her.

Only maybe dont start off with the sex issue. Could be misconstrued.
Start with the other stuff first.

emokid18 · #8 (**permalink**) 22-10-04, 12:33 PM

I am having the same problem but whenever i bring up realtionship problems to her she gets upset at me because she is over emotional and very short temepered. When ever i bring up the sex issue she just says that shes not in the mood and its been a couple of months now. Weve been dating for almost a year and a half and we have become boring and predictable and we fight almost everyday. Sex is the only way I can think of to spice up the realtionship. Does ne one have ne ideas on ways i can make her feel special?

neo511 · #9 (**permalink**) 24-10-04, 11:06 AM

well, i talked to her like you guys said (whom I love!!!) and she said...
"i dont need it, or crave it" " im fine without it, Im ok"..
it really frustrates me cos i want her to know that it is suppossed to be something speacial between 2 people.. and its not just some fun only thing... it sux!!

"god save me"

KirstyM · #10 (**permalink**) 24-10-04, 11:33 AM

Well tell her although you understand she doesnt crave it, YOU do. Maybe she's "ok" without it but perhaps with it, she'd be better than ok. If she is still wary, then there is something wrong...

flame · #11 (**permalink**) 24-10-04, 01:29 PM

Yer. Be honest wither her about how you -feel- about the situation.

sephora85 · #12 (**permalink**) 24-10-04, 02:09 PM

Maybe she is just losing interest, but she sounds kind of depressed. Maybe you should talk to her about it. Remember that a person doesn't necessarily need something to be sad about to get depressed, a lot of times its just caused by an imbalance in your brain chemistry.

Another thing to remember after you've looked into the depression thing...
Some will, but most girls are not just going to jump on top of you and rip off your clothes. And you can't just ask your girlfriend. You really have to try to make her want it. Tease her a little and just fool around without you having the expectation of sex and just maybe you'll get it.

abercromqt20 · #13 (**permalink**) 24-10-04, 10:29 PM

If it's just that she doesn't crave it and you do, i still think you will have a problem there in the long run. I have a girlfriend or 2 that say they just aren't that into sex. which may be fine for them, but you are. whether you think it will or not, this will eventually put a strain on your relationship. you need be in a relationship that you are compatable with. Sex is included there.

now i don't know if shes just not that into it b/c she's kind of shy or timid. try getting her more into it. but if that just doesn't work then i don't know what to tell ya.

neo511 · #14 (**permalink**) 25-10-04, 02:31 AM

i tried to tell that i want it to "spice" things up, and all that but i still get a "you dont need, you wont die, your ok" "its not a big deal"...
and sephora85.. you are a GENIUS!!.. i really thing thats why shes like this.. cos remember the "i need a break" stuff i posted a bit ago.. i think now shes just putting she feeling to the side "they dont matter"... this "time to think" shyt is really getting old.. FAST!!

emokid18 · #15 (**permalink**) 10-01-05, 12:49 PM

Not like anyone is going to read this because the post ended oh so long ago. But what it seems to me is that you are not dealing with love but you are dealing with lust. Sex can be a healthy in a relationship though but is not neccessary if you really love her.