need some help

[devilsrage]

my girlfriend and i wher like having some fore play the other night and she wanted me to finger her and everything i started to but it kinda hurt her i was wondering becuase she is very tight if there is like some adive you can give to me to better understand how to deal with this and how i can help her cop with the pain, if you have any adive pleae post i would like to know what you guys think i should do

[diablo robotico]

Find her clitoris. That's the fun spot. Swirl it around and rub it. When you insert your finger, don't go in very far. And if she's not lubricated naturally, wet your finger with a little saliva first.

[devilsrage]

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Originally Posted by diablo robotico

Find her clitoris. That's the fun spot. Swirl it around and rub it. When you insert your finger, don't go in very far. And if she's not lubricated naturally, wet your finger with a little saliva first.

done all that man but stell it hurt her alot tho man

[Kimbrlee]

there could be any number of causes. 1. Maybe she's nervous and can't relax... that's a big one. I'd suggest a shot of your favorite liquour before starting 2. She's not lubricated. Diablo is right on the money, just use some saliva or even lube and that may help. 3. You're using your finger wrong. Some guys just don't know and they start sticking their finger where the pee comes out... that's not very comfortable to say the least.

If your girl has never used tampons or masturbates it will take some time. Just be gentle with her and let her get more comfortable. Even going down on her may loosen her up some.

Talk it out with her, let her guide your hand. I've been told by guys that it's really arousing when I take control

[devilsrage]

thank you the 3rd one is probaly the best one you hit the money on that one i have talked to her and everything i even try holding her hand while i fingered her last night but for both of us it is new for us and we are just probaly uncomfortable, if you got some like more hit and tips that would be nice thanks

[BlackRose]

Get her to show you what she likes. Don't let her just lay there. Have her direct your hand until you get it right. Nothing wrong with that.

[devilsrage]

whell i ahve been talking to her about it and on saterday we probaly end up at my house again watching movie and doing it again and then she let me know and i will let her show me how she wants it done becuase i don't want to hurt her but i just want to find a way where i can like make her get use to it

[diablo robotico]

Well, she does know best. So let her show you where and how, either by demonstrating herself, or by guiding your hand.

By the sound of it, she's still a virgin? Maybe you just want to stick to the clitoral stimulation, since insertion isn't required for that.