Originally Posted by raven
I would probably say from a woman's point of view, when he can so all the nasty human things people do, in front of you and you don't mind, when he isn't home in time and you get worried, when you think that you can live without him, then realize you don't want to. When you step back and see the stupid goofy things, and think they are the greatest. When you want to be with him all the time, even if he is on the toilet. When you accept the ugliest things about him, and sometimes even like them. When you want the best for them, and feel pity for them like when they have a bad day.
Most of all, when he or she gives you holds you and gives you all of their attention, you forget everything else in the world. Like it is only the 2 of you in the whole world. After years of being together.
Love is:
- A deep desire to know the person you're with and to make them happy.
- Wanting to be there for there for everything.
- A friendship that can overcome all obstacles.
- Craving your partners trust and respect and being willing to earn it no matter what.
- Allowing yourself to be completely vulnerable.
- Wanting to share all your experiences, the good, the bad, and the ugly, with that person.
- A desire to nurture the love you share and make it grow.
- Not superficial. You curl up with that person when they're sick and risk getting sick because they need comfort and attention. You're able to love that person when they gain ten pounds or their face breaks out like crazy. A willingness to be with that person in public despite their physical flaws. Not caring about how much that person spends on you. I could go on.
- When you are able to accept your partner and their personality flaws.
- When you're able to pick your battles and shrug off the trivial stuff.
- When you're want to make compromises for that person in order to make things work.
- When you have faith in their abilities.
- When you want to listen and understand. When you're able to listen without defending yourself and acknowledge the mistakes you've made. When you realize that owning your actions will gain that persons love and respect.
- When you want to know their secrets and dreams.
- When you want them to be able to confide in you. When you are able to not pass judgment based on their past.
- When you don't make that person pay for the mistakes and pain others have caused you.
- A desire to celebrate your partner's successes with them.
- A want to be there for your partner when they need to escape from the world.
- Wanting to know what that person loves to do and a desire to share common interests.
- A desire to be worthy of your partner's love, care, compassion and respect.
Falling in love is easy. It's keeping it and helping it to grow that matters. Two people can never make a relationship work if they allow their love to become stagnant and don't realize the need for growth. When love becomes stagnant between two people they start to take one another for granted. Love thus diminishes. We all want love - when you find it hold on to it and nurture it like a garden. The more you put into it the more you'll get out of it - the fruits you get from it will be so much sweeter. It's cyclical.
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