Heya well - From the info u gave - Maybe you could try playing more intamite games that both of you are involved in - but try explaining to her ina good way what you like It takes time to learn how to satify one another -

Talking to her but in a nice way not rude as in *oh u aint pleasing me so buck up* never works - but if u dont address the problem at the start it will get harder -
Zoe x