What men are thinking when making the move?

[artyemi]

hey nomas.. the link is in this thread... just look further up.

[artyemi]

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Originally Posted by nomas

What?? You've already seen a picture of Sophie? What's going on here, Soph? How did Sombra beat me? I see how it is..I see where your loyalties lie. ...

You've never seen pictures of me and Oig and T? We have them online.

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Originally Posted by nomas

I love those free-spirited girls...maybe because one still is majority owner of my little heart...

Am I going to get to see her?

Fras- what happened to the cookie picture?

[Frasbee]

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Originally Posted by artyemi

Fras- what happened to the cookie picture?

Ah, I ditched it.

I like change every now and then.

Speaking of which.

I think I'm gonna change my avatar again.

[artyemi]

Change is good. It's the only constant. bla-bla-bla.

Can't wait to see that new avitar

[Frasbee]

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Originally Posted by artyemi

Can't wait to see that new avitar

Well, I never really create a "new" avatar.

I just modify the old one.

[artyemi]

very interesting how changing the color changes it so much

[nomas]

Yeah, this one looks cooler somehow, Frisbee.. Funny thing is I have a little "logo" I created myself which looks a little bit like that. What's even funnier is that I created it in relation to this girl, Sophie, who you most likely won't be meeting..we have almost no contact with one another anymore, but even if you met her, I wouldn't let you know she was her. I mostly keep that kind of thing to myself..here I take advantage of this relative anonymity to maybe say a little more than I would in a setting where there is a greater chance that the characters of the stories know or would meet each other. Still, I don't lie, but I don't say who's who if you know what I mean. If I reveal something, it's when I know chances are they won't know the person. Plus, with this girl I'm really selfish...I don't want to share her with anyone... not her her, but my feelings towards her, obviously.

Hey..I saw the pics...Ha ha..look at Serg's hair! I always told him to grow it out..I think it looks good.. Did you know him when he used to buzz it? And your hair...how do you girls do it? It can be both, wavy and straight! Mine's just curly. I tried straightening it once and it was a disaster..but I should have probably used some chemicals on it or something...maybe next time I let it grow long...

Can you tell I'm a big fan of hair?? Yup, I notice hair.

So now I'll be able to recognize you at the airport. That and my old highschool buddy will be next to you.

PS. and, no, I don't know where this website is with pics of Oig, you and T?? Email it to me, please..

[Frasbee]

I like this one because the actual swastika is going clockwise, while with the black outline makes it looks like it's going counter clock wise.

[artyemi]

i have to edit the site first, then will email you the link.

anonymity is good. i like it too. like here, people think i'm a guy.

dammit! i want to be a guy, then I can blame everything on my hormones.
As a girl, it seems the only thing you can blame on your hormones is your moodiness. Dayam!

Nomas, I reeeealllly like your hair. I've heard stories about it involving birds.

Fras- you are one creative dude!

[nomas]

Oh, man, Arty, so Oig told you about the attacking crows, ha ha..

Yeah, I like my hair too..have you seen pics of it when it's longer?

Right now it's pretty short, so you won't get to see it in it's curly splendor, but ah, well, maybe some other time.

[Iminlove]

Not all guys just look for a piece of ass or pussy some guys like me want a long term relationship and love before they have sex. Like me I am an emotional guy that likes to have true love before anything else. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about six months now and we still have not had sex yet and the only reason we haven't is because we both won't to know if are love for each other is true love or not. Both of us truly love each other so soon we will make love I don't like to call it sex. Me and my girlfriend are planning on getting married so once we have sex we are definatly getting married cause we don't want to break up after we have sex cause we have taken something no one else can and we want to leave it that way. So don't think all guys are the same. I don't even look at other girls now because I have alot of respect for my girlfriend and she is all I will ever want and ever need.

[artyemi]

iminlove- that is totally great. I like to hear that.

A guy I know tells me he's completely in love with this girl. yet, he still is able to have sex with another girl. How does that happen? Of course, he also said he felt guilty about having sex with another person.

So guys, do you think of having sex with another person when you're in love with someone else?

[nomas]

In theory, sex simply means having a girl and a guy putting their sexual organs together. This causes physical pleasure.

The social aspects are the interesting ones. Under the cultural norms most of us live by, in your question, Arty, it wouldn't make sense to claim to love someone while having sex with random others. Why? Because our culture ties sex with affection and romantic feelings and caring and monogamy, etc, etc.. So assuming the person you "love" is like the majority, then this person will be hurt or won't believe you love her if you're sexing others. If the culture was different and sex was nothing more than the definition above, then it wouldn't matter who you have sex with. Unless part of your definition of love is: the person you want to have sex with exclusively.

[artyemi]

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Originally Posted by nomas

In theory, sex simply means having a girl and a guy putting their sexual organs together. This causes physical pleasure.

The social aspects are the interesting ones. Under the cultural norms most of us live by, in your question, Arty, it wouldn't make sense to claim to love someone while having sex with random others. Why? Because our culture ties sex with affection and romantic feelings and caring and monogamy, etc, etc.. So assuming the person you "love" is like the majority, then this person will be hurt or won't believe you love her if you're sexing others. If the culture was different and sex was nothing more than the definition above, then it wouldn't matter who you have sex with. Unless part of your definition of love is: the person you want to have sex with exclusively.

My definition of love (not familial, friendship, but romantic love) is the union/bonding connection of two people exclusively on the emotional level, physical level. So yes, it would involve wanting to have sex with that person that I am in love with exclusively. And yes, I believe that if a person tells me that they love someone they should be incapable of thinking of physically joining their body with another person that is not the person that they claim to be in love with. But that's just me.

I guess also because I think that it's very selfish to try and seek physical pleasure with random others when your heart is already tied to another person.

For me, for casual sex to be okay, the two people who are involved cannot be emotionally or physically tied or in a relationship. I see it as you're making a commitment to something, and being involved with another person seems to break the commitment in some way. Like you're going on a diet, and decide to have a chocolate bar. Cheating.

If my heart is with someone, that's the only person I want to be with, the only person I think of being with, and I don't even think of being with just some random others. But again, that's just me.

[nomas]

Is tickling another person also cheating? In a way it is physical contact with some pleasure involved..right?

A massage?

I'm thinking popular opinion will be.."No, those are okay"

Because sex is still taboo. Is there legitimate reasons as to why just plain sex is a deeper connection than other physically pleasurable acts? Just like kissing..it's the idea that we have that you only do it with your boyfriend/girlfriend..but that's dead now. Is sex headed this way too?