I Can't Come!!!!!!!! :((((((

[Ellynn]

For some guys....oral alone doesn't do it for them. One of my ex's didn't even really enjoy it. Another guy I know says that it gets boring....and would rather have actual sex. Then there are alot of guys who say oral is the best! Everyone is different.... I myself as a girl....enjoy oral being done to me....but I haven't gotten "there" yet. It still feels good and its enjoyable....but that alone hasn't done it for me.

Could be the guy or could be me....who knows?

[shh!]

Could be the guy - maybe you should try a woman instead. She would be more familiar with your anatomy.

:-D

[Ellynn]

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Originally Posted by shh!

Could be the guy - maybe you should try a woman instead. She would be more familiar with your anatomy.

:-D

I think I'll stick to men. Just my preference. I think its my fault as well..... Sometimes its hard to relax at first..

[cheazypeaz]

skater, i have the same problem in general. seriously once its warm and wet, and you poke it in there, you wont feel that you 'cant come' lol ... blowjobs are good, but for some reason it dosent do the same thing as sex, unless she is going up and down on it, if ya get me.. as if it were here pussy you were going in and out of.

haha now you just need to work out what all that means...

blowjob = enjoyment slow cum
sex = enjoyment 10x as fast cum

[misombra]

maybe you just haven't gotten a really good blow job.

sex=blowjob.

[RSK]

wow, this thread is WAY out of my leauge, i wish one day i could share my blow job experiences with you all, till then................the left hand it is.

[Cybog]

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For some guys....oral alone doesn't do it for them. One of my ex's didn't even really enjoy it. Another guy I know says that it gets boring....and would rather have actual sex. Then there are alot of guys who say oral is the best! Everyone is different.... I myself as a girl....enjoy oral being done to me....but I haven't gotten "there" yet. It still feels good and its enjoyable....but that alone hasn't done it for me.

Could be the guy or could be me....who knows?

My guess would be yes and yes.

[manonfire]

omg i have the same problem... but it might just be cause this one girl is just not too good at it.. ive only gotten head from her, so maybe shes just bad. but yah.. i should REALLY stop touchign myself so much, its so wierd sometimes like when shes jacking me off it like hurts and doesnt feel good at all... maybe cause shes just bad, but haha also cause i touch myself to omuch

btw, its probably the guy.. i nkow personally that its HARD to make a girl come from oral, and it takes a lotta work... (lets just say my tounge can move mountains now) so they just might not know what theyre doing. i guess it could also be that you just dont enjoy oral as much as the real thing.

[cheazypeaz]

i agree manonfire...

[XPixiedustX]

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Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO

Okay well read the thread title.

It doesn't matter how long she's going down on me, the only way I can come is if I finish it off by jacking it. No.. she doesn't just "sit" there waiting, but it requires me multi-tasking, which makes me cum even longer.

I'm glad I'm not a premature ejaculator, but this is ridiculous! By the way, she's not the only one i've had this problem with, nobody can make me come other than me.

Oh, by the way, to the people that read my other thread about the phone sex and wondering if she'd come quicker: she came in about 5 minutes. I used one finger, didn't even do anything to the clit, just the G-Spot, and her juices squirted and I felt a tight pinch on my finger.. but that was just the first time


And what do you all suggest I do?

have you ever come from anything else besides jacking off? if your answer is no....you might have RE

[Abraxxas]

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Originally Posted by RoxyFoxy

Great point there Cybog. I need to ask all the guys a question here. I have a friend of mine who said that her man can go on forever. Yes I know, but you have to here this. She says that he is great, and that he really enjoys it, but he can't finish "not even once", every time they have had sex. Now, suppose that she is being honest about it, which I seriously doubt unless the man has no testicles; how would you guys feel?

I told her that if there is nothing in it for him, he's just going to stop having sex. She became very upset and stopped talking to me. But I just want a guy's opinion on this. If you would have sex with someone, and could not cum, would you have sex with them again? And again? And again? Could you honestly say that you've enjoyed sex? As a woman it's different, I do enjoy sex even when i'm not having an orgasm. But I know it's different for men. Let me know what you think boys.

I experienced this with the last girl I was with, the first time we had sex I got off, the following 6 or 7 times I did not. It made her very uncomfortable, she started feeling like she didnt turn me on, which was completely wrong, I would go until she either came so many times she couldnt take it or got sore and made me stop... and I couldnt get off. What I figured out was that I just wasnt comfortable with her yet, somebody new, worried about being a disappointment, thinking too much about making her happy to actually let myself enjoy it I think. Mostly my own insecurities I think, but I enjoyed every minute of it even if I didnt finish and looked forwards to having sex every time it happened, I have friends who have gone through this same thing so I know its not just me. Everybody is a little different.

From this guys perspective, thats one possible cause for a situation like that, I always get over it but I know from experience that it can be confusing/frustrating for the woman until she understands why it happens. Open communication, understanding and time are the 3 key ingredients required to get over it

Just my $.02

[fear_21]

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Originally Posted by artyemi

i think you're jacking off too much. your "little man" is so used to your hand that mouth and stuff isn't going to work. what you need to do is jerk off less.

I agree, u sound like u had ****ed 188495milion babes till now , and your dick is going to fall off

[RoxyFoxy]

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Originally Posted by Abraxxas

I experienced this with the last girl I was with, the first time we had sex I got off, the following 6 or 7 times I did not. It made her very uncomfortable, she started feeling like she didnt turn me on, which was completely wrong, I would go until she either came so many times she couldnt take it or got sore and made me stop... and I couldnt get off. What I figured out was that I just wasnt comfortable with her yet, somebody new, worried about being a disappointment, thinking too much about making her happy to actually let myself enjoy it I think. Mostly my own insecurities I think, but I enjoyed every minute of it even if I didnt finish and looked forwards to having sex every time it happened, I have friends who have gone through this same thing so I know its not just me. Everybody is a little different.

From this guys perspective, thats one possible cause for a situation like that, I always get over it but I know from experience that it can be confusing/frustrating for the woman until she understands why it happens. Open communication, understanding and time are the 3 key ingredients required to get over it

Just my $.02

Oh no. She and him have been friends for quite a while. They have also been having sex a long time before they were dating. Now that they are seeing eachother, they seem to be having alot more sex than before. When she told me that her guy never used to cum when they had sex, I found it very odd. She would try for a long time, sometimes as much as an hour, and still, nothing. I thought she was lying, but I guess that there are actually people out there like this. So, as a man, do you still get pleasure out of sex if you don't cum?

[Abraxxas]

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Originally Posted by RoxyFoxy

Oh no. She and him have been friends for quite a while. They have also been having sex a long time before they were dating. Now that they are seeing eachother, they seem to be having alot more sex than before. When she told me that her guy never used to cum when they had sex, I found it very odd. She would try for a long time, sometimes as much as an hour, and still, nothing. I thought she was lying, but I guess that there are actually people out there like this. So, as a man, do you still get pleasure out of sex if you don't cum?

Absolutely, I love everything about sex whether I cum or not. After the first handful of times not cumming was a non-issue. It has only happened to me with one girl and I think it was because I knew her for a couple years beforehand and with all the talk about sex and everything with her as friends when it came time to actually do it I think I was afraid of disappointing her lol, so I just had to share that as a similar experience to the one your friend says she had only mine was temporary whereas his sounds like its a regular occurance... mine happened a handful of times but as soon as I felt confident that she enjoyed it as much as me (she initiated sex 90% of the time) the whole "not gettin off" with her was long a thing of the past.

For me sex is more about making my partner happy than myself anyways, I can punch the clown and get off anytime I want to so the actual climax isnt what Im in it for, its the reaction I get out of the woman, seeing how good I can make her feel. Watching her, listening to her, feeling her tense up, grabbing hold of things, hearing how amazing that was, all those things turn me on more than the sex itself, sometimes that turns me on so much that I can cum two or three times without stopping in between. So yeah, even if not cumming during sex was a regular issue for me I would still enjoy sex

[RSK]

so, i guess this is were all the serious talk takes place, yeah?