BF won't have sex - Love Forum

Commendable · #1 (**permalink**) 15-07-05, 06:11 AM

He's driving me nuts.

It's been almost a month!!

Tell me it isn't normal for a guy to be that disinterested in sex?

He's never been a rabbit, but at least we did it once or twice a week.

So I invited him over Wed. He says he has to work on his truck. Yeah, like you can't spare a half hour?
Then I say okay Friday, next day tells me he's been invited out after work(I'm invited and going also).
SO I cancel plans I have thursday so he can come over. The bastard just refused to come over again. I even offered to come pick him up(He took the top pff his bronco and there's a 50% chance of rain) That and it's too hot.
GRRRRRRRRRRRR!

I'm not going to be able to stand this much longer.
Now I know why his ex cheated on him, he obviously wasn't giving her what she needed at home.

I love him to death, everything else is fine between us. It's just the sex thing.
I know he isn't cheating cause I'm with him almost all day after work. There's no time in between for him to do anything with anyone else. And he works with all guys, so unless he's gay nothing there either.

He's had a few issues during sex before. Is alway's saying he can't feel anything with a condom on. So we don't use one til he's almost 'ready' And there's been a few instances where we'd go at it for more than an hour and he just couldn't cum and gave up. It has to be pychological.

I think maybe the few bad experience may be holding him back. He alwasy tries telling me he's bad in bed, shouldn't that be my say not his? I think he's terrific.

I'm at my wits end I've even shed tears over this issue.

BTW, he's 21 I'm 22. Been together for Six Months. We both live at home so we don't often have time alone together. Usually Wednesday is our alone time, but my brother was home last week and his parents had him busy the week before that and now this week so it's nearly a motnh now.

His parents are going away this week and he insists we'll be alone then. He has AC in his room too is what he said.

If I had it my way we'd be off on a deserted road or in his barn for all I care.
HE's such a prude. I'm the complete oppisiste, what most guys would want, I"d be happy haveing sex all day every day.

What do you think, sorry abouth the novel, I just don't have anyone to talk to about this.

TAVS · #2 (**permalink**) 15-07-05, 06:18 AM

I think it's time to point and laugh at him. Oh, I got a better idea, you can start sleepin with me and see if you can make him jealous. Okay, sorry, I don't have any constructive thoughts on this. Ah hour......wow

whaywardj · #3 (**permalink**) 15-07-05, 06:26 AM

Then there's always the possibility he's a got a case of crabs or clap and is just waiting for it to go away. Seem to recall a thread here once about sex at work....hmm.

Speculation can be an awful thing. Why don't you just ask him what's up?

MrDrum · #4 (**permalink**) 15-07-05, 07:49 AM

Only one answer.... He's gay.

Cybog · #5 (**permalink**) 15-07-05, 08:23 AM

Or, you are fat. Don't be so quick to point the finger at the guy everybody...

There is still that chance that he is repulsed by you naked.

P.S. If this is such a problem, why haven't you flat out asked him "Whats wrong with us in the bedroom?" or "Why don't you like to ****?"

If you can't ask those questions and get an honest response, then this isn't a relationship.

mini696 · #6 (**permalink**) 15-07-05, 08:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Cybog

If this is such a problem, why haven't you flat out asked him "Whats wrong with us in the bedroom?" or "Why don't you like to ****?"

If you can't ask those questions and get an honest response, then this isn't a relationship.

I agree with this.

MrDrum · #7 (**permalink**) 16-07-05, 06:26 AM

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Originally Posted by Cybog

Or, you are fat. Don't be so quick to point the finger at the guy everybody...

There is still that chance that he is repulsed by you naked.

P.S. If this is such a problem, why haven't you flat out asked him "Whats wrong with us in the bedroom?" or "Why don't you like to ****?"

If you can't ask those questions and get an honest response, then this isn't a relationship.

No.. any guy his age, behind closded doors, would fck a fat girl. Makes no difference. (horrible I know.. but true) If he were truley repulsed by her looks, he wouldn't be with her at all.

Commendable · #8 (**permalink**) 18-07-05, 11:54 PM

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Originally Posted by MrDrum

No.. any guy his age, behind closded doors, would fck a fat girl. Makes no difference. (horrible I know.. but true) If he were truley repulsed by her looks, he wouldn't be with her at all.

Throw the fat thing out the wondow, his ex was 5 3 and 250 or something. Was with her for 4 years. HE's a chubby chaser. I'm the same height and only 160, so only a little chubby.

HE's supposed to be coming over after work today so we'll see.

I'm taking charge this time. I think he might like that.

boobaa · #9 (**permalink**) 19-07-05, 12:24 AM

He is PI?

Oh, I don't understand those american weight measurments...

Chris660 · #10 (**permalink**) 28-07-05, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by MrDrum

No.. any guy his age, behind closded doors, would fck a fat girl. Makes no difference. (horrible I know.. but true) If he were truley repulsed by her looks, he wouldn't be with her at all.

yeah, like the saying goes "beauty is only a lightswitch away."

Cybog · #11 (**permalink**) 28-07-05, 05:58 PM

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Originally Posted by MrDrum

If he were truley repulsed by her looks, he wouldn't be with her at all.

If only this were true.

Apache · #12 (**permalink**) 28-07-05, 10:56 PM

Sadly there are guys out there like this. And there are some gals like this
too. Its probably psychological...and he's going to have to deal with that
himself.

My suggestion to you is this....six months together is not a long time.
And all to often a problem such as this does not go away, it gets worse
with time. So ask yourself how much you really care for him. Is it enough
to put up with this...and if it gets worse?

The early part of a relationship you guys should be ripping each others clothes off. My current love and I have been together for a year. We still
haven't hit our peak, as each time we are together is better than the last.

My suggestion is to drop him for something better. Life's too short not to
enjoy what we want. You shouldn't be dealing with issues like this after
only 6 months. Ask him what the problem is and how to correct it. And if he can't answer you...move on.

Apache · #13 (**permalink**) 28-07-05, 11:03 PM

The Fat girl thing....Jeeze you guys are bad.
I never look at this, personality and compatibilty
come first. The bonus is physical appearance.

Thats the difference...are you having sex with
her body, or her? Its better if you are having sex
with her.

Chris660 · #14 (**permalink**) 29-07-05, 11:15 AM

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Originally Posted by Commendable

What do you think, sorry about the novel, I just don't have anyone to talk to about this.

Talk to him about it. Tell him how you have noticed that your sex life is on the decline, plummet....however you want to define it.

We can all speculate on what the problem is, but he is the only one that can give you the truth.

misombra · #15 (**permalink**) 29-07-05, 11:17 AM

he's probably trying to see if you're just with him so he'll have sex with you. he probably doesn't want some sex crazed slut like his last girlfriend so he's seeing if you're one.

maybe.