Age gap and sex...

[peachykeen]

Hi all

I'm a 20 yr old girl and I'm seeing a 32 yr old who is kind of a family friend-he is my neighbours nephew.

We've been hanging out for the past month and we have kissed on the lips, nothing heavy, no necking at all yet, and I know he does like me a lot, and he's affectionate, but there's not been any deep amazing kiss as yet...

I don't know why but I have an overwhelming desire to invite him over and make wild love to him..as tragic as it sounds, I don't think I've ever wanted to be close with a man so much before. I have had one other boyfriend who I had sex with regularly, it's just that this guy is 32 and so shy-which he has said he is shy..but I don't think I can hold back much longer on at least having a good old make out. I just don't want to scare him off..

He has been hurt several times by women and is terrified of getting hurt...tho he can be cheeky ...so i'm not sure if i'm the one who should be making the move..i think so

what is it he possibly wants..he is 32..and has not made a move tho likes me a lot...is this normal? i don't think so...

[shh!]

I don't normally consider a 12 year age gap a big deal when you are talking about full-grown adults, but let's face it: you can't even buy a cocktail yet, haven't graduated college yet, and very possibly don't even fully support yourself yet. These are the marks of adulthood (no matter what they told you when you turned 18). Assuming he is a stand-up guy, these things have probably occurred to him, too, which may be why he hasn't made a move. That he likes a 20 year-old and finds her attractive is well... the nature of men, but at his age, he may be looking for relationships that offer more depth than the average 20 year-old can offer, no offense intended. I'd try him again in a few years, if I were you.

[peachykeen]

I'm in Australia and we are allowed to drink at 18, for starters, I work fulltime and support myself entirely. So it's got nothing to do with that. It's just doesn't seem to me, even if he is shy, to be so restrained or terrified at 32-it speaks to me of some underlying problem. Come on..ya know..

[shh!]

Hmm... Well, then, is it possible that you have misinterpreted his interest level? I mean, if you've already kissed him, he knows you are interested...

[saraleeforeman]

Age doesn't got alot nothing to do with it, cause maturaty level can't always be based upon age.To me it sounds more like a personnal problem. It could also be the fact that he has alot of respect for you and in his his slow and steady wins the race!

[Late_vamp]

be careful , he might need to pop some viagra in a couple of years. just kidding , in about 20 years maybe .

[Ellynn]

Maybe the age gap bothers him? Or maybe hes just taking things slow because he wants to show you he respects you..... Maybe he is afraid that if he has sex w/ u right away.....your gonna get the wrong impression of him or that hes gonna scare you off.

You both need to talk about this. Let him know that your open for more....and ready for more.... If he says he isn't then you have an answer.

If hes ready to take that next step w/ u....then at least your putting it out there how you feel....and then there won't be that awkwardness of whether to take things further or not. He needs to know how you feel...and vice versa...

[Axel]

Excuse my choice of words, but:

You're a big girl now!