Gone off sex =/ - Love Forum

---beatingheart · #1 (**permalink**) 08-07-05, 08:17 PM

Hiya, I'm new to the forum, so puh-leese bear with me =D

Basically, my boyfriend and I have been together for about 4 months, and I've totally lost all interest in sex/masterbating etc! Now, I know this happens in the majority of relationships, but what makes it strange, is that he and I haven't even had sex yet =/ He's a virgin.

He's always felt bad about it, because he knows I'm not, and he always thought that our little 'tease sessions' were a huge anti-climax for me, but it never bothered me too much, I just respected his opinion and that was that. I did always hope though, that he would one day decide he'd like to bite the bullet. But now suddenly, I've completely lost my drive =/ I thought that the opposite would happen, but apparently not =D

I don't even have any desires for the "extras" =/ My boyfriend hasn't any idea of this, and I was advised not to mention it in case he thought it was some sort of 'manipulation/reverse psychology' to get into his pants =/

I just don't know what to do to get it back. I've tried everything from talking to people, masterbating (even though I didn't feel like it), porn etc. You name it, it's been tried. Now what?! Any ideas why it may have happened? I can't recall a time when it did with my ex =/ Help!

Thank you in advance!

whaywardj · #2 (**permalink**) 08-07-05, 08:26 PM

How old are you and your b/f?

marcus23 · #3 (**permalink**) 09-07-05, 02:30 AM

Did you ever hear for bipolarism?

shh! · #4 (**permalink**) 09-07-05, 02:49 AM

I am not particularly alarmed at a 20 year old girl with not much sex drive - your interest won't even reach its peak for another 10 years, at which time you will walk around feeling like a dog in heat. For now, the question should not be about whether or not you walk around all day thinking about and wishing for sex, but rather whether or not your interest level can be aroused given the right circumstances. If you know your boyfriend is not going to be boinking you, then there is not much point in becoming aroused.

whaywardj · #5 (**permalink**) 09-07-05, 02:57 AM

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Originally Posted by shh!

If you know your boyfriend is not going to be boinking you, then there is not much point in becoming aroused.

Women are soo practical that way. Like they've got this this on/off switch..."Sigh! No opportunity. *Click.* Off with the desire. Aha! THAT looks nice. *Click.* On with the hormones." In dry times, us guys just walk around with our hats hanging on our laps, tugging at our pants trying to untangle our underwear.

Tone · #6 (**permalink**) 09-07-05, 03:11 AM

LMAO Hayward!

artyemi · #7 (**permalink**) 09-07-05, 03:17 AM

I agree with shh! in this "If you know your boyfriend is not going to be boinking you, then there is not much point in becoming aroused."

And perhaps, your mind is already expecting this so after a while, you're just like "eh."

whaywardj · #8 (**permalink**) 09-07-05, 03:17 AM

Why are you laughing, Tone? It's TRUE, isn't it? ;-)

Tone · #9 (**permalink**) 09-07-05, 04:04 AM

Sure is LoL

artyemi · #10 (**permalink**) 09-07-05, 05:58 AM

I don't know. We can turn off, but it does affect us somehow. Maybe psychologically.

loverboy1 · #11 (**permalink**) 13-07-05, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by artyemi

I don't know. We can turn off, but it does affect us somehow. Maybe psychologically.

brain power.

misombra · #12 (**permalink**) 13-07-05, 08:15 AM

mind over matter.

TenorTwo · #13 (**permalink**) 13-07-05, 09:05 AM

Women can control, but if you get a girl aroused when she's not expecting it... it's like a hurricane that the radars didn't pick up. You better be prepared to perform or run very fast.

Tone · #14 (**permalink**) 13-07-05, 10:49 PM

hahaha Tenor

Ellynn · #15 (**permalink**) 15-08-05, 01:25 PM

Some birth control pills can cause you to be less interested in sex. Also stress can do that as well. Sometimes I can go a long time without the slightest interest....but Im only 23 and I hear women reach their sexual peaks in their 30s and early 40s.. Now theres something to look forward to....