Man first let me tell that Im a virgin too and proud of it. Most guys I know have slept with too many girls for their own good. Its cool that you want love first before sex. Also its cool to be a virgin cause theres so much guys out there that just using girls for sex and are manwhores. Its so easy to fall in cheap sin so more power to you for not falling in temptation.
She seems more experienced and it seems like her feelings are not yet where your feelings are since she couldnt respond with same. Also it takes longer for girl to fall in love than it takes to a virgin guy.
Anyway it seems like I experienced what you are going tru now. I will guess and Im pretty sure about it that girl already figured out you are virgin. And by inviting you to her house she just basically says that she wants sex. But you dont have to do it if you dont feel comfortable.Kissing comes first, then touching above the waist and then next time at her house you can touch eachother below the waist. It takes hours of spending together to feel comfortable. Its like building up that trust and confidence.
So you dont sleep. I had the same problem before meeting girl cause we chatted about sex so much and it got to my brain. But I used sleeping pills and they helped. Then after meeting her in real life I was able to sleep without pills.
I will tell you what - dont expect yourself to be able to sleep at girls house. If you will do sexy things in bed before sleep, you wont be able to sleep but will just spend all night in bed with a hard on.
You should comicate with girl un bed, tell her if you dont feel comfortable. Also you might be pretty peaceful in bed, but she might be aggressive. Its okay, it takes some waking up. Every next time in bed you will become more and more confident and aggressive. Your sex drive will go up.
So yeah go on by your feelings - if it feels nice then do have sex, if it feels like something is not right or its too much then dont have sex.
Seems like this girl have gotten to a point where she wants a virgin guy. Its up to you if you want to give up your virginity to her or not. If you want relationship afterwards then you should say it upfront.
I can suggest dont aim for sex but look for spending nice time together and sex will come by itself. - Bring her a red rose, compliment her looks, have a glass of wine together, watch movies in bed, kiss and cuddle while doing that. If she can cook then she could cook you both a dinner and breakfast. Thats also nice. So yeah go by the flow. Whatever feels right.
Last edited by pcmaster; 31-12-16 at 07:23 PM.
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