getting over my ex

[febreze]

hello, introductions, why not! 24yo from liverpool uk, split with girlfriend of 4 1/2 years about 4 months ago. it was overall a very happy relationship, we survived my being away at college for 3 years. i really felt that she was perfection, all i could ask for in a partnet and believed that she was the most attractive person on the planet (i've always felt she was a little out of my league!).

towards the end of the relationship she started to lose interest in sex and i should have taken this as a sign that she was starting to lose interest in me generally. it's hard because we really got on so well, spectacularly really, we'd laugh for hours about nothing. she changed a lot in the last year, and as stated in someone's signature here, she changed and forgot to tell me. she also didn't think that it was a massive deal to kiss other people, which i didn't really agree with. anyway, i miss her terribly and am not sleeping well at all at the moment. i'm between jobs and having too much spare time doesn't help matters at all.

she ended up just needing space to meet new people, and to be just a friend, which i couldn't really handle - can anyone? well, she's got space now because she lives in europe, has a new boyfriend who is italian and rich, and whom she met at the gym! ugh! well, she plans to bring him back to liverpool show him around and this news ruffled some slightly buried feathers within me! so i came looking to my friend the internet for support and sharing and found this forum. hello to everyone, it's reasurring to know that so many people go through the same kind of stuff, and some people get dealt a worse hand than yours! hope we can all find some solice in these here pages! x

[Cybog]

Hello, and welcome to the Forums! Feel free to repost this in the proper spot for a response

[febreze]

oh no i wasn't looking for a response, just getting it out of my head! theraputic

[abercromqt20]

well first off you gave a huge chunk of your adult life to this woman, so don't worry it's probably going to take more than 4 months to get over it. the thing is, which is sometimes the hardest part, is to do what is right for you over your old feelings. you need to really sit back and realize that you deserve so much more out of a relationship. someone who is as into you and you are to them. it can't be all one sided. i know it can be hard to do the smart thing, but trust me in the end you will meet someone better suited for you. so take your time, date around, be picky for a bit, take it slow...... and when you least expect it you will find the one you deserve and the one that deserves you.

[Matt118]

Funny how they always need space, but not from the new guy.

When she started losing interest, it was more than likely because she was becoming close to someone else.

You're so much better off without her, and time heals all wounds, well, mostly.

[febreze]

thanks for the comments guys, it's all true! while you're in the midst of getting over someone, you can't get the perspective you need, that's where other people come in! funnily enough i spoke to her on the phone for the first time in a couple of months and hearing about her and her life and boyfriend didn't have as much of an adverse affect on me as i would have thought. so yes, it would seem that time does heal! i'll wait and see how i feel when she brings her new italian boyfriend home for a visit at the end of the month!

[febreze]

so weird, i forgot i'd even posted on here and it's strange to find my old post from 2 years ago! well anyway, i survived!

and i'm seeing her sister now, who's much nicer