RPing - Love Forum

sticko · #1 (**permalink**) 06-01-08, 10:53 PM

okay... Me and my GF have been going out 2months. We haven't kissed yet. I have been ready since the beginning. I've just been waiting for her. I have never rushed her before, because:

1- I would never do that to her.
2- I don't want to rush into things.
3- The wait will make it all the better.

We are both 17. I have kissed women before. She however has never even kissed a guy before... So it is a little hard for her.
NEways, she went to her moms for winter break 2weeks and her mom isn't really too fond of me so rather than talking on the phone, we talked on AIM.
(AOL INSTANT MESSENGER for those who don't know)
Well, one day she brought to my attention what she likes to call Role Playing... RPing for short.

Basically we make up a character and play out a story.
(We were really bored..) Well she was a girl lying by the fire basically and I was her bf just in a room. (pretty normal I know)
Normally it would have been more imaginative but I think we just wanted to be "us" together. (lol)

Well I was awake and she was asleep by the fire. I think the whole thing was her testing me to see what I would do. I say this because all she typed the whole time was *sleep*. So I had basically all control over the events that unfolded. I ended up getting in the blanket with her, holding her and kissing her. She did not protest a word of it. She actually seemed to go along with it. NEways, a few days later we did another RP. I'll spare the details this time but we ended up making out and holding each other in it. We have done this RPgame at least 5times and every time it seems to end the same way. Us by a fire, holding eachother, making out... I haven't seen her in two weeks
(the duration of these games) and I'm seeing her tuesday.

I believe these games are a sign of what we both want. I even broughtthat belief to her attention one time, saying:
"You know we both know why we do this... It's because we can't in real life." (<meaning cuz she's at her moms)

My question is, are these clearly signs that the time is right?
I am seeing her Tuesday and I honestly am having trouble holding back... I feel like we are so close. Do you think the time is right? Advice?

vashti · #2 (**permalink**) 06-01-08, 11:02 PM

I am rather surprised that after going out for 2 months, especially at the age of 17, you haven't kissed her yet. "Going out" usually implies a deeper level of intimacy than you would have with one of your friends. If she doesn't want to kiss you at this point, I'd be worried.

sticko · #3 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 02:32 AM

Why would you compare it to Final Fantasy? What the hell?

Don't call it a Fetish scene. Wow what an odd way to look at it.

I am fully aware that we should have kissed by now and that it is strange that she has never even been kissed before. But I don't see it as a red flag. She is just afraid, and I don't want to rush her. Also, "going out" doesn't "imply" a deeper level of intimacy. It merely implies a Title of bf and gf. Wow I was expecting advice, and yet I feel as though I am giving it. Thanks for the comments though.

Also, its not that she will "object". I think she would go for it if I kissed her. But I don;t want to rush her and ruin it.

Frasbee · #4 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 02:40 AM

First kisses aren't as spectacular as they're made out to be.

You guys should just get the first one out of the way so you can get to the better ones.

sticko · #5 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 02:43 AM

Well it would be "OUR" first kiss. But for her its her "first ever kiss".

She's a lip virgin. If you understand what I mean. lol

So its sort of a big deal for her.

Frasbee · #6 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 02:50 AM

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Originally Posted by sticko

Well it would be "OUR" first kiss. But for her its her "first ever kiss".

She's a lip virgin. If you understand what I mean. lol

So its sort of a big deal for her.

I know what you mean, but I think putting so much value on a kiss is setting one up for disappointment.

She sounds like the romantic/sappy type.

I would suspect she played with barbies and had a childhood dream of being a princess.

sticko · #7 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 03:03 AM

ROFL. I feel as though you've read her rather accurately. (stalker?)jk

Yeah, you make a good point. I am seeing her Tuesday and I suppose I should make it happen before its too late. Thanks for the advice everyone.

vashti · #8 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 03:07 AM

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Originally Posted by sticko

Also, "going out" doesn't "imply" a deeper level of intimacy. It merely implies a Title of bf and gf.

Yes, it does. If it doesn't mean anything, then why not just call yourself "friends"?

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Originally Posted by sticko

Wow I was expecting advice, and yet I feel as though I am giving it.

Trust me, there is absolutely nothing you - given your age and level of inexperience - can tell me about relationships that I don't already know.

Frasbee is right, though. It sounds like you both are expecting fireworks the first time around. I hope that will be your experience, but it is often unrealistic.

Frasbee · #9 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 03:12 AM

Vashti has a point.

I've said myself: If there's no physical intimacy, you might as well be friends. Otherwise, what differentiates you from the rest of the lot?

Anyway, point being, yes, kiss her. She probably wants you to take the initiative, and she probably has some unrealistic expectations about it (perfection), but she'll learn this all in good time. Hell, I bumped teeth the first time I open mouth kissed my girlfriend, and then choked on a mosquito the 2nd go 'round.

Less than ideal, eh?

Oh, and keep us updated on how it goes, we like to be proven right...and to a lesser extent, proven wrong.

nuevo · #10 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 08:05 AM

17 years old!!!!

WTF????????????

Frasbee · #11 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 09:04 AM

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Originally Posted by nuevo

17 years old!!!!

WTF????????????

What?
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sticko · #12 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 11:54 AM

yeah I'm confused by that reaction as well.

Look Frasbee I'm not trying to "tell you things" (for lack of a better word.) But being in a relationship doesn't always imply a level of intimacy. I mean you gotta start small and build up. Thats what were doing... It's just going a little slower than expected. :\

Thanks all for the advice. I will post how it goes after I see her.

Frasbee · #13 (**permalink**) 07-01-08, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by sticko

Look Frasbee I'm not trying to "tell you things" (for lack of a better word.) But being in a relationship doesn't always imply a level of intimacy.

Yes it does.

It usually starts emotionally and works it's way to physically.

Now stop trying to act wise.

#14 (**permalink**) 08-01-08, 07:10 AM

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

Yes it does.

It usually starts emotionally and works it's way to physically.

Now stop trying to act wise.

It goes both ways, like the wind.

sticko · #15 (**permalink**) 08-01-08, 09:26 AM

Im not trying to: "act wise". If I was I wouldn't be here aking for advice. and BTW what you just said:

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

It usually starts emotionally and works it's way to physically.

(^THIS)

Is exactly what I said earlier

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I mean you gotta start small and build up.

(^HERE)