Confused... help! - Love Forum

headCrab · #1 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 02:04 PM

Ill try explain my problem in detail with as fewer words as possible.

I have been going out weekends some mates from work, one of whom has bought along his girlfriend, me and her diddnt get off to a good start the first week, but the following week and the next couple after that we have became quite close.

The things that make me think she likes me are the way she treats me so well, she has locked us in the bathroom and her bedroom to talk about things away from everyone else, including her boyfriend, she has told me that she loves me and that she hates it when I have to leave, she always gives me cuddles, grabs my hand etc etc

Last weekend, just as I was leaving with a couple of mates in the morning, I went to give her a goodbye hug and she kissed me on the lips in a slightly more than friendly way, as soon as we was outside my friend said that it was lucky her boyfriend diddnt see us, and that for some reason she obviously really likes me.

The part which is confusing me, is how do I find out for definate that she really is interested and if she is, is their a chance we could be together and she would leave her boyfriend?

I really don't want to ask directly because it could ruin our friendship, and I can't text her on her mobile because she shares it with her bf, and he doesnt trust her. I just need a way I can get a better idea of how she feels.

I know she wont cheat, she would end it with him first. I also know I should walk away from this situation, but I really have fallen for her, and cant stand the way she is treated by her bf and the way he somtimes treats his mates.

Any help is appreciated... (Thanks for reading.)

giulia · #2 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 03:44 PM

HI. She does like you. It's pretty obvious....but my concern here is that you want her to be with you even though you know she is capable of cheating.etc? (I know she hasn't cheated, but it seems she is likely to.) And what about your friend?

I think you should talk to her and tell her what is happening is wrong. If you want to be with her, then you really do have to tell her straight to her face how you feel. I don't think you should, but if you do, thats the way to go about it.

RSK · #3 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 03:55 PM

i agree with the post above

where in africa are you from, bwana?

TAVS · #4 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 09:48 PM

So you want to steal a girl from a guy at work and let him beat the snot out of you every day thereafter?

giulia · #5 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 09:59 PM

I'm in sunny South Africa! There are no lions in the streets and I don't live in a shack...

Junsui · #6 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 10:04 PM

Awww too bad, I like lions.

Ratfish256 · #7 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 10:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Junsui

Awww too bad, I like lions.

I like shacks...

Junsui · #8 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 10:17 PM

Love Shacks?

Lloyd95 · #9 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by headCrab

she shares it with her bf, and he doesnt trust her.

Hmmm....I wonder why...

IckleMissNawti · #10 (**permalink**) 19-10-05, 10:20 PM

"lifes too short to sit on a fence, if you want something then you got to go get it because it aint going to wait for you to come to it! Just face your fears and do it anyways!

in other words just ask her how she really feels and tell her how you feel... end of the day what have you got to lose, and from what your telling us looks like it nothing and your the one she wants!