Age - Love Forum

Girlie19 · #1 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 05:49 AM

Okay here's my story...
I joined some group to organise certain events. There's one guy from an official thingy to lead that group, make sure we do the right things and so. We've been together with that group a few times, but sunday we went out, to a pub, as a teambuilding activity. I drank way too much, as most did. But most went home, while I missed the last train, together with another boy. During our time in the pub, out leader, lets call him M texted me some things like you're cute and I'm not going to sleep without a goodnight kiss.. I had to stay at that M's place, but he only had one a bed and a couch. So yeah, I ended in a bed with him. The other guy didn't know, being too drunk & sleeping on the couch. Thank god I remembered in time that I don't want to loose my virginity yet, that I'm not on birthcontrol pills and that I don't know him at all... Now I really wonder what to do. I mean, he is the kind of guy I'd totally fall in love with (as far as I can judge now, same interests for one). But the age? He's 29, I'm 19. Plus the role he plays in the part, he's got to lead our group on, not get involved with one of us =/ So continue with this or quit?
Heh, I've been in a yes or no situation often enough, but this is odd... Don't know what to do. My parents'd kill me, that's one thing I know..

#2 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 05:54 AM

Stay away.

CircleC · #3 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 06:01 AM

I am 99% sure of this: The guy, "M", had been planning on you being in his bed that night for days. It may have seemed random, but it had been plotted.

I second Tone's idea.

ecm · #4 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 06:08 AM

I agree. Stay away.

Look, 10 years isn't that big a difference in age...but the big difference is when you are 29 and 19 you are in very different stages in your lives, and that will cause all sorts of problems.

At 31, I dated a 21 year old and I HATED picking her up at the dorm. Her "world" was college activities. My "world" was a professional life underway. Just didn't mesh.

carpflounder · #5 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 06:16 AM

If you sleep with him do it with a firm understanding that he will promote you.

Girlie19 · #6 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 06:16 AM

thanks guys - you're seconding my thoughts... too bad there's this part of me who found it rather exciting...
but yeah you're probably right - thanks for the fast reply

promote me? it's voluntary

Lloyd95 · #7 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Girlie19

Thank god I remembered in time that I don't want to loose my virginity yet, that I'm not on birthcontrol pills and that I don't know him at all...

This was funny. Oh, and before you go sleep with him, go see our "slut" thread in the 'Sex Talk' section.

Girlie19 · #8 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 07:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Lloyd95

This was funny. Oh, and before you go sleep with him, go see our "slut" thread in the 'Sex Talk' section.

And how should I relate to the slut part? I've never slept with anyone yet, nor planning to do it any time soon (if I'm a bit more careful with alcohol...)

whaywardj · #9 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 07:54 AM

I find it distasteful and disturbing that an "authority" figure would come onto you that way at what was supposed to be a "teambuilding" get-together. Very big danger sign to me.

Rosebud · #10 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 08:10 AM

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Originally Posted by whaywardj

I find it distasteful and disturbing that an "authority" figure would come onto you that way at what was supposed to be a "teambuilding" get-together. Very big danger sign to me.

I found that a little unsettling as well Hayward! But then again the whole situation just seems unsettling. I'm going to have to agree with CircleC on this one, I think he may have wanted to take advantage of your very drunken state. I would stay as far away from him as you can get.

whaywardj · #11 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 08:14 AM

Yes. But don't worry if you want to get blotto around me. I won't take advantage that way. I promise.

Rosebud · #12 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 08:15 AM

LOL.. yeah not THAT way at least..... LOL

mini696 · #13 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 10:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Girlie19

I had to stay at that M's place, but he only had one a bed and a couch.

Should have taken the couch... Or made him take it.

Trying not to be maen here, but you are young and -compared to him- immature. He is using his experience to make it seem like he will give you everything you want.

Dont continue down this path.

Mick

sweetkiss4one · #14 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 10:23 AM

I agree with all the above post..... stay away from the whole situation.... he's much older than you and probably had a lot more planned then you think!!!

Mishanya · #15 (**permalink**) 26-10-05, 11:45 AM

Away Stay

(But bear in mind, some day that virginity will have to be given up)

((And that virginity is overrated))

(((And that part of experience too is important)))

((((But see if you can find a nicer boy))))

(((((I think i just got addicted to using parenthesis)))))

((((((I can't stop using them, help!!!))))))