Not sure about this one.... - Love Forum

Reko · #1 (**permalink**) 24-10-05, 07:40 PM

OK well I've liked this girl for like a couple years and she loves me and I love her, I changed schools so we've been just talking to each other online. Well, shes had a boyfriend and I kept my sistance, Well on saturday we went to the movie, then we hit a party after and then she kissed me. Now she keeps saying she keeps getting mad at hey boyfriend etc. Her best friend is encouraging her to break up with him. Well I talked to her best friend the next day and she said that she leas guys on into loving her. Im not sure how far either. Well we were supposed to go to a movie this friday, what should I do if she is just "using me"?

whaywardj · #2 (**permalink**) 24-10-05, 08:13 PM

You should leave her alone altogether, and tell her to leave you alone, until she's ready to be with just one guy.

Or, you should accept she's not ready to do that and enjoy the ride without having any notions you're anything special to her, or she's anything special to you.

Whichever you're most comfortable doing.

CircleC · #3 (**permalink**) 25-10-05, 03:58 AM

I think you should also be proud of yourself for staying cool while she has a boyfriend. At least, cool enough that she wants to come back to you. But, like Hayward said, I wouldn't stay involved in a love triangle for another second.

#4 (**permalink**) 25-10-05, 04:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Reko

OK well I've liked this girl for like a couple years and she loves me and I love her, I changed schools so we've been just talking to each other online. Well, shes had a boyfriend and I kept my sistance, Well on saturday we went to the movie, then we hit a party after and then she kissed me. Now she keeps saying she keeps getting mad at hey boyfriend etc. Her best friend is encouraging her to break up with him. Well I talked to her best friend the next day and she said that she leas guys on into loving her. Im not sure how far either. Well we were supposed to go to a movie this friday, what should I do if she is just "using me"?

Clearly it bothers you that she has a BF (else you wouldn't have posted), so here's my 2 cents:

Tell her you would love to get to know her better, and would be happy to go out with her but you are uncomfortable w/her having a boyfriend. So at the moment you'd rather not. Make sure you focus on YOUR feellings and don't make a judgement about HER. Pay close attention to her response; you'll learn a lot. Good luck!

Reko · #5 (**permalink**) 25-10-05, 06:03 AM

I was in a rush posting that so I forgot a couple things. Well she lead 3 guys into loving her but im not sure if they ever did anything. Also, he boyfriend has been threatening to kill her so I think that might be why she is still with him. An expert is going to call her tomorrow and the expert isnt gonna mention me at all and try to talk to her about it. I hope that helps her.

Rosebud · #6 (**permalink**) 25-10-05, 07:05 AM

I wouldn't believe everything everyone tells you especially since it sounds like the person that gave you information really doesn't know all that much either. She could be leading you on who knows? The only thing you can relaly do is talk with ehr and find out how she feels. She does have a boyfriend so I'm not going to give you the go ahead to make a move but I would find out where she's coming from so you know what to expect.

Reko · #7 (**permalink**) 25-10-05, 07:11 AM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

I wouldn't believe everything everyone tells you especially since it sounds like the person that gave you information really doesn't know all that much either. She could be leading you on who knows? The only thing you can relaly do is talk with ehr and find out how she feels. She does have a boyfriend so I'm not going to give you the go ahead to make a move but I would find out where she's coming from so you know what to expect.

Well her best friend told me this but who knows. Also, what do you mean by "where shes comming from"?

Rosebud · #8 (**permalink**) 25-10-05, 07:25 AM

what I mean by that is why she kissed you? Just ask her what her intentions are with you? Ask her if the kiss meant anything. Obviously she's giving you signals here but she does have a bf so she could just be looking for attention.

Reko · #9 (**permalink**) 25-10-05, 07:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

what I mean by that is why she kissed you? Just ask her what her intentions are with you? Ask her if the kiss meant anything. Obviously she's giving you signals here but she does have a bf so she could just be looking for attention.

would she be offended at all if I asked her "what are your intentions with me?"