Becomming more desireable - Love Forum

Fajemeister · #1 (**permalink**) 30-10-05, 08:00 PM

How do the guys here make themselves more desireable to women? What are all your tactics?

mhussain · #2 (**permalink**) 30-10-05, 08:14 PM

you cant make some one desire you. they must do that themselves.

Hussain

Fajemeister · #3 (**permalink**) 30-10-05, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by mhussain

you cant make some one desire you. they must do that themselves.

Hussain

I should of clarified. I meant how do you act when your around women, are you yourself or do you augment your character/personality slightly. If not, then how do you act generally around girls? I believe that you can change someone's view on you over time. So say a girl doesn't really have an interest in you, but then over a few months she can become interested just because of your personality or other things.

Justplaying5050 · #4 (**permalink**) 30-10-05, 09:35 PM

Be yourself and definitely dont try to be someone else because the real you will show eventually. also focus your attention on the girl not yourself

mhussain · #5 (**permalink**) 30-10-05, 09:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Fajemeister

I should of clarified. I meant how do you act when your around women, are you yourself or do you augment your character/personality slightly. If not, then how do you act generally around girls? I believe that you can change someone's view on you over time. So say a girl doesn't really have an interest in you, but then over a few months she can become interested just because of your personality or other things.

if you act with a girl as you would with a best-friends sister, then you should be alright LOL

independent · #6 (**permalink**) 30-10-05, 11:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Justplaying5050

also focus your attention on the girl not yourself

Good advice

misombra · #7 (**permalink**) 30-10-05, 11:46 PM

hussain you're back!

Fajemeister · #8 (**permalink**) 31-10-05, 02:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Justplaying5050

also focus your attention on the girl not yourself

Whats the best way to do that. This is my #1 weakness, not being able to keep conversations going. This is where I need help.

Rosebud · #9 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 12:40 AM

Just don't give such short answers to questions. If your asked something elaborate on it "why you think that way" for example. Just keep bringing things up and give an opportunity for the other person to answer and then go off of that.

JonathanP · #10 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 02:47 AM

You must pay attention to her. You can't force her to desire you. Desire is brought on from whether the other person has interests in you or not. If they have a lot of interest in you, then they will most likely desire you. Also remember one thing.

If you don't pay attention to her, someone else will.

mini696 · #11 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 04:13 AM

If they ask you what you have been up too on the weekend. Dont give detailed explanations on one thing you did, rather give lots of little details on a range of things you did. It will make you look busy, and give her the impresion you have a life. Also if she is interested she'll pick up on one thing she is interested in herself and ask you a question about that. If not, pick one of those things and ask her "Have you ever been to such and such"?

Mick

Fajemeister · #12 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 04:16 AM

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Originally Posted by mini696

If they ask you what you have been up too on the weekend. Dont give detailed explanations on one thing you did, rather give lots of little details on a range of things you did. It will make you look busy, and give her the impresion you have a life. Also if she is interested she'll pick up on one thing she is interested in herself and ask you a question about that. If not, pick one of those things and ask her "Have you ever been to such and such"?

Mick

Thanks for the advice, I will def do that next time.

CircleC · #13 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 05:43 AM

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Originally Posted by fajemeister

how do you act when your around women, are you yourself or do you augment your character/personality slightly

Do you have an older family member or someone in your life who you really love and look up to? Father maybe? Who are you most comfortable with in life?

When you aren't sure how to act, then you must act as if that person were by your side. Be the best you. Be the happiest and truest you. Noone can tell you how to be the best you. It's inside you.

Fajemeister · #14 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 05:53 AM

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Originally Posted by CircleC

Do you have an older family member or someone in your life who you really love and look up to? Father maybe? Who are you most comfortable with in life?

When you aren't sure how to act, then you must act as if that person were by your side. Be the best you. Be the happiest and truest you. Noone can tell you how to be the best you. It's inside you.

Ok, thanks for the advice. I feel better about all this now. Thanks for all the help.

TAVS · #15 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 08:41 AM

Confidence