Still Got problems a few questions - Love Forum

Chuckinlove · #1 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 05:49 AM

Hi everyone,
I have a girl friend, were both the same age (20). My GF is greiving (aunt, uncle, 2 grandparents 1 friend, in 2 year span.) and has depression. This means she acts bitchy for no reason, crys often, and can be mean. We've been going out for 10 months. It gets good for awhile than shes upset and bitchy for awhile. She can be mean a disses me in front of her roommates and my friends. Any time I get mad she just says sorry and if I'm still mad she says things like; your not going to be mad all night and not be any fun if so go home, kinda stuff like that if I get mad at her. Dispite all this I still love her. Question 1, is love enough, should I take her bitchyness and chalk it up to just greiving.

Than,
Theres this girl, shes my roommate, classmate, and a girl that I have had a crush on since last year, before I met my GF also a good friend. She just got back together with her BF. although I disagree with her lack of sympathy for single mothers and working moms she has, shes hot and fun to be around. Everyday she gives me a ride to the college I am tempted to tell her how I feel. Should I tell her that I like her, even though I'm trying not too for both my GF and her BFs sake, not to mention my own sanity? Also will it not make things weird between us, living together and going to class together?

Any help would be great. Thanks.

carpflounder · #2 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 06:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Chuckinlove

Question 1, is love enough, should I take her bitchyness and chalk it up to just greiving.

No, life is too short..your going through hell at 20. Just ditch the *****.

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Originally Posted by Chuckinlove

Should I tell her that I like her, even though I'm trying not too for both my GF and her BFs sake, not to mention my own sanity? Also will it not make things weird between us, living together and going to class together?

I'd go for it. The only thing you have too loose is bitchy gf. Maybe things could get weird..but so what? You have your whole life ahead of you. See that girl then see another.

Good Luck.

shh! · #3 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 06:28 AM

All women are bitchy occasionally. The ssoner you accept this, the happier you will be. But you are very young - there is no need to tie yourself down to one girl at this point.

Late_vamp · #4 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by shh!

All women are bitchy occasionally. The ssoner you accept this, the happier you will be. But you are very young - there is no need to tie yourself down to one girl at this point.

very true , and dont forget , being depressed is NOT a reason to act like a Bi tch to your lover , thats just wrong .

CircleC · #5 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 07:03 AM

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being depressed is NOT a reason to act like a Bi tch to your lover , thats just wrong .

I agree completely Vamp, but have yet to find a woman who NEEDS a reason, LOL.

whaywardj · #6 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 07:58 AM

DO NOT further complicate an already complicated set of circumstances by adding the stress of letting your housemate know you're interested in her romantically. The answer to your last question is, "yes."

shh! · #7 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 08:05 AM

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very true , and dont forget , being depressed is NOT a reason to act like a Bi tch to your lover , thats just wrong .

If you talk like that to your girlfriend when she is bitchy, she will probably kick your @$$.

mini696 · #8 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 09:04 AM

She should be coming to you for support through her hard times, not pushing you away and making her life harder for you both.

Should you tell your friend you like her? Maybe... But it is a selfish thing to do. But I would tell her if I was you.

Late_vamp · #9 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 09:48 AM

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If you talk like that to your girlfriend when she is bitchy, she will probably kick your @$$.

She will TRY , and ill PUT her at her place . i will make her understand with logic and common sense . If she doesnt get it then my theory about women never making sense will only be backed up .

shh! · #10 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 09:51 AM

You will put her in her place, and you will be right... and single.
:-)

independent · #11 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 10:33 AM

I would have a talk with your girlfriend. You may find that she is needing a break. It sounds to me like she is not happy with the current circumstances. If it IS only that she is depressed and going through a really hard time... in two years, I would hope that she has gotten some sort of help to get her through it all.

Tell her you are worried about her, and you realize all she's been through - that you DO love her... but that maybe it's time to back off and let her deal with everything else in her life for awhile.

As for your roommate... I would let some time pass between situations. It looks bad on you to both of them if you dont (IMO). That might turn off the roommate because how you treat other women (as in dump one and pick up another all in 24 hours) is an issue that might be a factor in whether she would consider going out with you.

Chuckinlove · #12 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 10:49 AM

Thanks for all the advice. She is getting help for her depression, and we talk about it constanttly. Its just hard when she gets stressed and takes it out on me, when its not my fault. I've decided it would be highly inapproperiate for me to tell the roommate how I feel.

Junsui · #13 (**permalink**) 01-11-05, 09:33 PM

Sounds good Chuck. At least your gf is getting help for depression. It can be tough to go through depression sometimes and a good support system always helps, but if you don't feel up to that, then don't stay with her.