what's up with him?

[leftxrightx]

i just started a relationship with this guy about a week ago, and before that i had known him for a couple of weeks. he's a sweetheart, but i notice that whenever we're on the phone together, and someone else calls him he'll always ask me if he can call me back. lately i've been letting him call me back only to find out that he never calls back. he apologizes, and tells me he fell asleep. earlier this evening i confronted him about it because while we were on the phone one of his friends called him, and what did he do? that's right. he asked me if he could call me back, and i refused. i kept refusing until eventually his friend's phone call got disconnected. his friend calls him back within five minutes, and he puts me on hold. i decided to hang up because i was annoyed, and upset. everytime we talk on the phone, and someone else calls he asks to call me back, and then never does. i told him that i didn't want him calling me back tonight, and that i was upset with him, and he says to me that they're his friends and he's known them longer. that made me even more upset. what do you think is up with him?

[crazyjoe]

Before you worry too much, ask him if he dislikes talking on the phone.
I know a few people who completely hate calling someone, especially of the other gender. But if he does hate the phone, he should've atleast told you.
Actually, I'm one of them. I'm way better off in person.

And it's not totally a bad thing that he follows the old "bros before hoes" thing. Eww, thats crude sounding. But you get the idea...
I know one guy who totally ignored all his friends after knowing a girl for 1 week. He asked her to marry him. And she was only 17. And this was a week after he raped her because she didn't want to have sex that night. But it was ok, he was drunk. Both nights.
On the bright side, his friends never had to deal with him again.

THE END

[whaywardj]

Bullshit. He loves talking on the phone. Obviously. Two things: It's not who he's known longer, its who he's talking to first that gets priority. That's just rude. Or worse. Which leads me to: If can't manage his time or affairs well enough to have a decent phone conversation with you, what else can't he manage, and why give a shit "what's up with him"?

[Debunkt]

I'm going to have to go out on a limb and say he's not entirely interested in you as far as a relationship goes, or even a relationship with anyone period.

[whaywardj]

Then there's that.

[Asip4u]

I agree with Hayward here...Plain rude!

[Only-virgins]

Haha I would do the same. I hate talking on the phone. Maybe you talk to much?

[CircleC]

He can't have sex with you while you're talking on the phone together.(hold the phone sex jokes) You're not very important to him, that's what I get from your post.

[Tone]

I agree with Hayward 100%.

[Rosebud]

Well yes I think Debunkt and Hayward have pretty much summed it up. If he doesn't have enough respect for you to tell the other people he'll call them back, or even call YOU back when he's done talking with those other people than I don't think he's all that interested in your realtionship.