Yep, at this point (also after reading your previous post), if she also agrees to the idea, then try seeing other people. That way, you won't get too caught up with each other all too soon. This will give you a bigger perspective in your relationship too. And whatever decision you make afterwards, you'd be sure you've evaluated all aspects/possibilities.
On the other hand, if in any way, one of you fells uncomfortable with the set-up, DON'T. Unless you want to risk some blaming later.
And by the way, just a few points:
1. Has she completely gotten over the previous relationship? (If you're not sure, you have to be)
2. How serious do you both intend to get? If it's about marriage, you both have to be really sure you've got what to it takes to make that decision and make it last...a lifetime.
3. Has she improved so far? I mean, after that incident in your other post? Remember, the deeper and longer a relationship becomes, the more complacent and unpretending individuals turn into. As you can see in perhaps almost 100% of the couples around, they don't really stay as they were when they first got together. Eventually, the real self comes out. It's just a matter of wether or not your love and committment is strong enough to make it work. If indeed she has improved, then she must truly love you. And she is worth taking care of.
Tell you what. When I was reading your previous post, I felt like I was somewhat seeing myself in it. I am not that depressive though. But I used to get really nasty when things didn't work out the way I expected them to be. Or sometimes, when my boyfriend fails me, no matter how unintentional, I act like a spoiled brat listening only to my feelings...and hurting him as well. I always wanted him to be hurt because I got hurt. That way, I thought I'd make him learn his lesson and make him avoid failing or "hurting" me again. But I was wrong. So wrong I'm still facing the consequences. Because of my impulsive decision to break up with him, he let me have it. I thought he'd beg me not to but he let go of me. Ironically, I was the one begging him back. He still loves me but he chose to give ourselves time and space to think things over. I hurt him real bad. We're still together most of the time. But the committment is now nonexistent. He hasn't said it's final though, that's why I'm still doing what I can, hoping I could still save what is left. I learned my lesson the hard way. But I must say, I'm a changed person now. It's been 2 mos. since our breakup and I miss him terribly still. My only consolation is that, he's still with me and he still loves me. Now I've learned how it is to really love unconditionally. And I told him, if he ever gives us a second chance, I will make sure there won't be any regrets.
Hope yours turns out real good
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