Hi again

[wbean]

Know something?, i give up, shame and pain will happen at first, but eventually i will forget and who knows what does the future holds. I really liked this girl but she isn't interested in me, or she isn't interested in a realationship at all.

Enough, I'm tired of feeling this way.

[wbean]

By the way, I guess to conquer a girl isn't one of my qualities, from now on I will do as always and wait for mutual atraction.

[DuckyWucky]

Did something happen? I'm guessing you're talking about your old thread regarding approaching your friend. Did you make the effort? Don't give up on something you haven't gave an honest shot at yet. At times you can always get discouraged about a girl if you like them. Maybe the things they do or the things they say. If they have no idea how you feel, how are they supposed to act?

I know you like/liked this girl man, so what happened?

[wbean]

Well, things doesn't look good enough, i must admit that i was kind of down the day I posted this thread, but things got better lately.

I don't know If i will keep trying, sometimes i think she is intersted in me and sometimes i think she is not, and thats painful, I already started to try to forget her... Without success off course, but I dont know, maybe she does have interest, I noticed she is shy when dealing with feelings so one cant really know.

What do you think? Should I go straight and tell her everything? I just cant continue playing this game with this rules, so is this or start to forget about everything... I just cant keep going with the "she is intersted, no, she is not, wait she is, no, i dont think so" stuff... Maybe its because I'm too sensible... But i just cant... I just dont know what is in her mind...

So again, What do you think? Should I go straight and tell her everything?, or forget all and keep her friendship?.

[wbean]

I guess thats a pretty tricky question, hehehe, i wont blame anyone =P

[DuckyWucky]

I say don't call it quits yet. Maybe you should stop thinking about it so much and just do it. If you like her, go for it. Think about how much it means to you. If it's bothering you all the time that you like this girl, and she doesn't know, it will feel way better once she does know. At least if she gets a clue how you feel, even if you don't come out and say, "Hey I like you."

At this point, you'd much rather have her as something more than a friend. Otherwise, you wouldn't be posting this thread. Take that idea and realize it's worth taking a shot at her to see what could happen. Just tell yourself you'll do it, and you will.

Right now it sounds like you're looking at the big picture too much. You're thinking about the worst possible outcomes if you say anything, and you're noticing all vibes which seem negative from her the most. This is what's probably making you see past, or over the good signs that are there.

Most of the time, relationships won't just jump into your lap. You have to put forth some effort. It sounds like there's a door in front of you, and you just have to open it. This girl's probably waiting for you to do that as well.

[Argile]

Maybe you're wrong to think that what you're supposed to be doing is conquering a girl???

I've never felt the need to dominate someone I love, and in dating I've always held that the most important thing is an ability to compromise and understand.

Conquering is taking control of. You will not have a happy relationship by force. I suggest you take some sensitivity training or start working on seeing a woman as an individual and not a fort to be taken.

[wbean]

Thanks Ducky, i guess i will tell her, luckly this weekend... My god Argile!!!, that wasn't what I meant at all!, i guess you already notcied english isn't my native language, so maybe I said something I didn't mean to... Look, by conquering im talking about making myself be noticed, something like leting her know i care about her, its not like I want to dominate her.

She already conquered me, and is not like she is forcing me to feel something (or dominating me), is just that she is so nice, so beautiful, i dont know, i just love the way she is... So you can bet I'm conquered.

Anyway, if I say its difficult to conquer her love is because, as long as I have noticed, she is shy when dealing with feelings, she hardly let anyone know her true feelings, thats why I'm confused, but i have been trying to understand her, trying to go slowly and gain her trust first, and I think I already know why does she is this way.

But im not the perfect guy from a silly movie, i can also get sad... Because i like her so much... And is so difficult to know if she is interested at all... And as I said is painful when you go from "she does like me" to "she does not" two or three times a week. In my previous relationships everything was less confusing, i could tell when she started to like me and when it was the moment to tell her i did as well.

Anyway, i will take your advice Ducky, i guess the only way to end all this is by asking her what does she feels. Even if she doesnt feel the way i do, at least I will know.

[DuckyWucky]

Seriously man go for it. It's not doing you any good emotionally keeping it inside and just thinking about it. When you do let her know, go about it with confidence. Even if she doesn't feel the same, you'll be able to stop dwelling on the thought of this and that regarding her once it's all said and done.

I knew what you meant by conquering her too. I know you didn't mean to dominate her in any way. It's more so a personal thing, relating to you getting the nerve to actually say something to her/letting her know. Thus, "conquering" her so to speak.

Anyways, you know what you need to do. Be confident and see what could happen. Enough words have been said, now you need to take action once and for all. I hope things work out for you, I really do. I want to hear how it goes, so let us know.