Line of cheating

[Stomp]

Where do YOU draw it?

I´ve been with my gf for 15 months now. It´s a long-distance rel. and we are both very dedicated and believe that next summer we can move together. We´ve been seeing every few months or so, not easy, but easy enough because we trust and have learned to know eachother. Neither one of us is into wild bar life.. and we have promised eachother that kissing strangers is forbidden..
Last night I was drinking heavily (the beer was free...) in a club with couple of friends, and ended up getting so drunk that I had the courage to dance on the tables and forget all that had to do with common sense. So while doing it, I kissed three girls, two on their cheeks and one on her lips. I was too drunk that it wasn´t until I was back home when I realized I have done wrong to her. I believe my love is strong and because she´s practically my first gf, I don´t want to make a mountain out of this. It can happen when you´re drunk. But I want to be honest, and my coinscience can´t decide what I should do with this. She has once lied to me too, but it doesn´t justify anything..
Would you confess or forgive yourself for making a mistake and move on?

Answers appreciated, especially from women.. could you forgive this happening to you?
Stomp

Well... heh... I won't use alcohol as an excuse, because it's not. But yeah maybe you crossed the line.

Do you think you cheated on her?

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[jane]

is kisssing cheating? I respect the fact that you want to tell your girl. Many guys won't do that. GOOD FOR YOU!

However, you were drunk, it's not an excuse but the truth, you KISSED that's all. I mean it's tecnically cheating but it will kill all the trust you have with her. As long as you know it was wrong and you aren't going to do it again, hinestly, I wouldn't risk it.

Sounds like good advice to me.

If you do it again, then you should break it off with her. But, in order to avoid some headaches, I'd keep it to yourself.

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[jane]

exactly, then you meant to do it, regardless of how much you drank!

[Velcrez]

The important thing is to NEVER DO IT AGAIN. Once you realize how this has affected the relationship, (even if she still dosn't know about it). Obveously you wan't to try and make things better, and I am sure that you can. Just be very careful in the future when you start drinking.

[DuckyWucky]

As far as being in a relationship and cheating, what your partner doesn't know won't hurt them...


J/K. I know that when you drink you tend to get more, "outgoing" and you'll be more likely to talk to people. You can do/say things that you wouldn't say sober. I know, because I've been there.

I say since you were drunk, you now strongly regret it, you should just forget about it. What you did was nothing huge by any means. It's not like you made out with those girls, they were just little kisses. You can kiss your mother that way.

Now if you made out with a girl or had sex, then you'd have something worth REALLY feeling guilty for. I'd say just leave it be, and don't do it again in the future. Be careful. When you're drunk, you still have a general idea of what you're doing. Just think about it next time. Telling her will probably only make matters worse.

Depending on what kind of person she is. No one wants to hear about their BF/GF kissing another person. Regardless of the kind of kiss that was done. Which in your case was a peck on these girls.

I know as much as you'd like to think that she'll be happy with your honesty, and respond with open arms for telling her, it just doesn't work that way. She has feelings for you, and by telling her it can make it seem that it doesn't mean as much to you. That meaningness being her.

Move on and learn.