allright! alone for the hollidays yet again! - Love Forum

klip · #1 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 06:23 AM

i guess its a formula at this point, as i have never had any significant relationships during this time of "joy" i swear il never know what its like to spend chirstmas, heck even thanksgiving for that matter, with that special someone!

to you that are lucky to have it, Merry chirstams and i envy you.

updraft · #2 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 07:47 AM

Don't despair...I'm sure you will have a special Christmas with a significant other someday...instead of dwelling on what you don't have look at what you do have...family and friends (?) to spend the holidays with?

Frasbee · #3 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 07:56 AM

Why do you give a shit?

Unless you have no family to spend it with, I don't see what's the big deal.

I'd much rather have a family than a "significant other" to spend the holidays.

To all those who are lucky enough to have family, Merry Christmas, and I envy you.

ike · #4 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 08:11 AM

this'll be my first christmas without a significant other for a very long time and i'm sad about it. it's never stopped me from seeing my family, enjoying the time with them and eating and drinking far too much, but it's always been nice to have someone to share the festive time with.

one day I know that I will have another person to share these times with and when that day comes I'll be happy.

without someone over the coming holidays, does mean that i'll not have to worry about who's family I see first or how long is spent with each of them.

#5 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 08:26 AM

Hi Ike,

Be happy that you have some time to yourself, b/c one day you WILL be sharing your time w/someone. For those who DO have someone, be happy you have someone to share this time with. Either way, be content, because neither will last. Happiness comes from within. If you decide to be happy, you will be. If you decide to be sad, you will be. Everything, life itself, is transient. Being alone is an experience, being together is an experience. Enjoy ALL the experiences life has to offer.

ike · #6 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 08:30 AM

indigo, thanky you.... after a couple of crappy days, it is ALL the experiences that need to be enjoyed, i'd forgotten that recently.

PhaZo · #7 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 08:57 AM

iam the same as klip, i hope to find some1 soon or improve on situations iam having now :/

klip · #8 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 09:08 AM

its true, i really should be happy as i do have lots of friends and a great family, and i will ( and am ) spending time with them during the holidays, but sadly im really hard headed sometimes i can never really "not care" about being alone, even if its all up to me and i can be happy if i choose to, i just dont, i supose i look around

and see everyone happy with someone else and it makes me think "what have i done not to deserve the same happiness? " if i was a horrible person i would see it as a "fitting punishment" to be alone, but i really dont see myself like that and want to be happy like every couple i see ( well every couple i see that LOOKS happy at least )

#9 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 09:25 AM

Hi Klip,

My response was for you too (I think you understood this). I just quickly posted, and I thought you & Ike were the same... will be more careful.

#10 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by klip

i can never really "not care" about being alone, even if its all up to me and i can be happy if i choose to, i just dont, i supose i look around

and see everyone happy with someone else and it makes me think "what have i done not to deserve the same happiness? "

I never said to not care, just to live the experience. You have to look within more, instead of comparing to "without". If you were gone tomorrow, would any of it matter... watch children, if you have the chance. They tend to be very good at enjoying the "now".

whaywardj · #11 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 02:26 PM

All these happy couples smiling inanely at each other during the holidays are the very acme of insipidity.

#12 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 03:54 PM

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Originally Posted by whaywardj

All these happy couples smiling inanely at each other during the holidays are the very acme of insipidity.

Hi Hayward! You're right... they should remember to smile at each other EVERY day, not just the holidays...

::smiles brightly::

Chlorine · #13 (**permalink**) 04-12-05, 10:28 PM

klip----Don't let the festive period get to you. People start stressing because they have no plans for Christmas/New year, no plans with a special someone. All that adds up to depression and doctors get so busy at the end of the year because people start killing themselves over loneliness. Only here they don't publish the number of suicides at the year-end.

bball_1523 · #14 (**permalink**) 05-12-05, 03:41 AM

hey I've been in the same situation my entire life because I haven't had a girlfriend yet. I even feel bummed with my family because we aren't that close and don't really do much. Last year I didn't really get much for christmas so it kinda bummed me out, but I guess this is just a small part of life. I just hope for bigger and better things, including love.

whaywardj · #15 (**permalink**) 05-12-05, 04:17 AM

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Originally Posted by indigosoul

Hi Hayward! You're right... they should remember to smile at each other EVERY day, not just the holidays...

::smiles brightly::

I like the way you spun my Scrooge-ism.