Boundaries - Love Forum

sweetee · #1 (**permalink**) 10-12-05, 09:10 AM

This is going to sound like a stupid question, and it probably is.

How do you set boundaries in a relationship? Do you set it to protect yourself or the relationship?

Rosebud · #2 (**permalink**) 10-12-05, 09:16 AM

Why are wanting to set boundaries?

sweetee · #3 (**permalink**) 10-12-05, 09:27 AM

Actually, I am. I don't want to force the subject on to early.

Mishanya · #4 (**permalink**) 10-12-05, 09:28 AM

...And what KIND of boundaries???

Rosebud · #5 (**permalink**) 10-12-05, 09:30 AM

For what purpose? Like what's going on? You have to give us more detail then that to be able to help you.

gingerbabe86 · #6 (**permalink**) 10-12-05, 09:45 AM

be more specific.. we need more info to answer u'r question.. if u'r setting bounderies between u and u'r man/ the relationship then wats the problem??

vashti · #7 (**permalink**) 10-12-05, 01:58 PM

I think setting boundaries is a matter of deciding what is important and then being willing to protect that which is important.

In a relationship, for example, it is important to protect your own dignity, so if you feel it is being compromised, you must be willing to walk away from the relationship in order to preserve it, regardless of the pain you may be feeling at the moment.

It is also important to protect your relationship from outsiders, so if your girlfriends want to talk sh*t about your man, you have to be willing to risk losing them as friends if the behavior is not corrected.