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Fajemeister · #16 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 06:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

I disagree that you can't tell someone's tone online. I know it's not the same as if you were talking in person but for the most part you can still tell what someone is trying to get accross.

Just do the same thing you would in person. Listen to what you just said above, you answered your own question.

I just feel lost about what to talk about with this girl sometimes. She tells me that i'm kinda boring to talk to. I know what I have to do, keep the conversations random and change topics beofre one topic becomes to overdone. My problem is comming up with topics to talk about and get it going. Could you guys list some of your favorite things u like to talk about? I think it would help me out.

#17 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 06:09 AM

Aliens, UFOs, Bigfoot, unexplained / paranormal activity.

Fajemeister · #18 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 06:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Tone

Aliens, UFOs, Bigfoot, unexplained / paranormal activity.

Thats random but i dont know anything about that crap, and im sure she doesnt either. Plus it doesnt really seem like it would go over to well with her.

Rosebud · #19 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 06:20 AM

ok well about things your interested in, your family, what your doing at school, what tv shows you like, etc..... it's not that hard! Just talk about all kinds of stuff. When she starts saying real short repsonses, change the subject!

mini696 · #20 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 06:25 AM

Obviously you and this girl aren't suited to each other.

Fajemeister · #21 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by mini696

Obviously you and this girl aren't suited to each other.

I really don't think thats true. We get along and have a lot in common, it's just we talk so much so often (2-3 times a day) that we need to find new material.

Rosebud · #22 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 07:03 AM

Ok so your comfortable with another..see this is where I don't understand why people can't find things to talk about. Just bring things up that interst you or her. You don't need to always find new material..if you feel that way then maybe your the one that's bored. If you talk so often and have so much in common it comes easy to talk to one another.

Fajemeister · #23 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Rosebud

Ok so your comfortable with another..see this is where I don't understand why people can't find things to talk about. Just bring things up that interst you or her. You don't need to always find new material..if you feel that way then maybe your the one that's bored. If you talk so often and have so much in common it comes easy to talk to one another.

It used to be so easy, but now it seems like it's getting harder. Mabey it's just me, i'm not sure. I think i'll just go with my old approach and just go with the flow.

Junsui · #24 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 07:45 AM

Why are you talking so much throughout the day?

whaywardj · #25 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 08:40 AM

If two people are really interested IN each other they will be interesting TO each other, regardless of whether they're good conversationalists or not. If there's an issue around conversation, either a) somebody isn't really interested, or b) somebody wants something the other can't give, or c) no one has anything in common. Or all three.

Personally, I'd be pretty affronted by anyone flat out saying to me I was boring. I'd also regard them as so poor mannered that I'd want nothing more to do with them.

Davy19 · #26 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 01:35 PM

Well a lot of times it's hard to be yourself when you're nervous. I'm dating this girl who I really like I was really nervous and had a hard time keeping up a conversation. The more I talk to her the more comfortable I am and that's how it is with everyone really. Just try to calm down and not be so nervous, act like you're talkin to a familiar friend, after all she's going with you because of you and the more you act like yourself and better you both will get along(a lot of 'you's I know....lol)

Chlorine · #27 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 09:31 PM

Davy19----"Well a lot of times it's hard to be yourself when you're nervous. I'm dating this girl who I really like I was really nervous and had a hard time keeping up a conversation."

Heee.....this reminds me of the time I went on a date, and the guy seemed so nervous. He knocked his cutlery about, the fork fell of the table and he almost upset the coffee. The conversation was an ordeal. It got better once we left the table and started walking about in the shops.

Fajemeister-----One of the ways to spend time with someone, without having to talk too much, is if you guys share a hobby. Play chess. That way you can concentrate on the chess game, and at the same time, talk a bit here and there.

Late_vamp · #28 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 10:10 PM

thats true ... the more you spend time with her , then more you will talk later on ... also if both of you experience things together , then you will have things to talk about ...

go watch a movie then talk about what you liked/disliked ... what you understood and dint

if something random happens then its even better "hey remember that naked bum that was threatening us of shotting us with cum if we dint give him our sandwich "

"yea yea ... he smelled like dried crap on a dog sprinkled with whisky "

"hahah ... hehehe"

i dunno ... it 9 am ppl ... i had a horrible morning , i HAD to miss work and now im stuck home doing NOTHING all day ... shitty situation ... plus its bad because im new ... do you think they might fire me because i missed a day and its only been a week since iv been there ... the worst part is i actually WANTED to go to work .

#29 (**permalink**) 13-12-05, 11:18 PM

Did you call in? Or did you just no-call no-show?

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Originally Posted by whaywardj

If two people are really interested IN each other they will be interesting TO each other, regardless of whether they're good conversationalists or not. If there's an issue around conversation, either a) somebody isn't really interested, or b) somebody wants something the other can't give, or c) no one has anything in common. Or all three.

Personally, I'd be pretty affronted by anyone flat out saying to me I was boring. I'd also regard them as so poor mannered that I'd want nothing more to do with them.

I agree with Hayward even though I don't know what "affronted" means - I'm gonna assume it means somethin along the lines of "offended".

whaywardj · #30 (**permalink**) 14-12-05, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Tone

Did you call in? Or did you just no-call no-show?

I agree with Hayward even though I don't know what "affronted" means - I'm gonna assume it means somethin along the lines of "offended".

Generally, one is offended by an affront. I used affronted to mean just shy of offended.