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19-12-05, 06:33 PM
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| | | why ? Hi all,
To start with , I am in India where girls are relatively shy ...
The girl I am involved is in the same office as I am in...
For the last 4 months we have been 'looking' at each other...May be we have talked 5 or 6 times but all on official occassions.
Now that she s deeply attracted to me...it is reflected through her constant eye contact, body language and the occasional talks that I had with her..
So one fine morning I pinged her ( on MSN ) and asked why don't we go for coffee..She returned a blunt 'No' to which I was surprised...I told I was not going to propose her for a date or marriage and she need not worry...that we could simply have plain talk and have fun...
The more surprising was her response that she was not interested in all this...
Then why the hell she used to give those clear signs that she was damn interested ...
Could you experts pls explain why she did this...
and now on...what should be my approach ?
1.Just look and smile as if nothing had happened .. or..
2,Don't look her at all ...
I want to come out as not at all desperate...( which I am on her.. )
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19-12-05, 06:41 PM
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| | | Maybe she thinks you are weird. People look weird people.
Oh wait, did you consider marriage with her, as you mentioned that?
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19-12-05, 06:55 PM
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| | well u have only spoken to her 5 or 6 times and only on official occasions and to ask her on msn is also a no no lol  , but i dont know if they actually were "clear signs", if she was very interested, she would be the one approuching u and interacting with u.+ she might just look and smile and everyone, probably just a "nice" girl lol  | |
19-12-05, 07:00 PM
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| | | "People look weird people"
....if people look at you....do you consider yourself weird ?
We looked at each other because I think it was very irresistible...
"Oh wait, did you consider marriage with her, as you mentioned that?"
Not at all...
I talked that way for a funny talk... | |
19-12-05, 07:16 PM
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| | | maybe you should actually have a conversation with her before asking her out. i mean...it's been FOUR FREAKING MONTHS!!!! grow a pair, for cryin out loud!!!! wtf is that?!?! 4 months?!?!?! and only 5-6 official business type interactions?!?!
you do NOT ask someone out on MSN...that's plain dumb...any sane person would turn you down.
4 months...have had no meaningful contact with this person...and you think she's "deeply attracted" to you? and you ask her out on MSN? and you're surprised she turned you down?
you know what i think? i think it's all in your head...there are no signs, dude...she barely knows you even exist...
i know indian girls and asian girls...yes, the traditional ones are shy...but man, if they like what they see and they want you, then they start trying to hang all over you. i don't see that here...
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19-12-05, 09:05 PM
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| | | I think she may feel "chemistry" with you, but for whatever reason is not interested in dating right now, and is unwilling to allow her emotions to control her behavior. I think you ought to just smile and act as though you never asked. Get to know her (maybe she is seeing someone? maybe she thinks you are a player?) and maybe then you can ask again. | |
19-12-05, 11:47 PM
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Originally Posted by vashti I think she may feel "chemistry" with you, but for whatever reason is not interested in dating right now, and is unwilling to allow her emotions to control her behavior. I think you ought to just smile and act as though you never asked. Get to know her (maybe she is seeing someone? maybe she thinks you are a player?) and maybe then you can ask again. Yes, I agree with shh!. | |
20-12-05, 12:02 AM
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| | | No means No. Forget her and move on.
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| | | Just behave as though nothing has happened.
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